Peanut Butter and Jelly

Jason and I have been married for ten years this summer but we have been together for nearly fifteen years now. That’s a lot of life to travel through together and I am thankful to have my best friend by my side. We mirror each other and have often been each other’s subject of lessons learned in our life together. I am so thankful that we have found a partnership that can stand up to the many tests of time.

My husband and I are very different. He is 6’ 4” I am 5’. He likes indoor activities. I like outdoor activities. He likes to watch sports. I enjoy HGTV and finding DIY projects for us to do together. He allows me to make him “honey do” lists of things I need done around the house. Yet, he will do them only when he is darn good and ready! In turn, I have learned to be patient and thankful that he is here to do them for me in the first place.

He prefers to spend quiet weekends at home. I would rather go out and enjoy friends or activities together. He travels for work, a lot, and I work from home. We have opposite view points on many issues from politics, to how many dogs we should have. As a matter of fact, we are so different, that I believe we are like Peanut Butter and Jelly.

Jason is for sure the Peanut Butter in our relationship. He is the solid foundation on which I share all my flavorful and creative ideas and he does his best to help me make them work. I am the Jelly that adds the flare to our relationship. Sometimes I’m the sweet Strawberry Jelly, other times, I am spicy Raspberry Jalapeno!

I know without the balance and grounding, hearty substance of my husband; who is always his Peanut Butter self. I would be sweet but not satisfied. I really do appreciate and need his foundation of strength and stability. I believe, he also enjoys the joyful energy I bring to the table. We balance each other in many ways but sometimes our tendency to be so opposite brings challenges to our relationship. Yet, so far, they seem to be the reason we work together so well.

No matter how opposed we are, we seem to just know that this is who we are supposed to be traveling through this lifetime with. Even on days I want to tuck into a cannonball and take him out at the knees. 😊  Hey, some times marriage and life can be hard. Even when you love each other, there are days when we don’t particularly like each other.

Knowing that, even on those challenging times when life throws us curve balls or does its best to shake up our foundation, we know we are meant to be together. That random rattling of our foundation actually works to smoosh us together, mixing us up until we are a blended combination that is inseparable, just like Peanut Butter and Jelly.

I know that I am blessed to have found someone who fits me so perfectly, even as opposite as we are. This brings us both opportunities to grow exponentially in many ways. We are both great individually but, put us together and that’s where the magic happens. This is how we expand our possibilities. By accepting our differences and working together to build a relationship; we have sandwiched a beautiful life together.

I think it’s fun to think of different ways to describe or explain complicated matters like relationships. What analogy would you give your marriage or relationship? I would love to hear them!

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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Something bigger than myself

For the last five years, I have been extremely introverted, focusing on bettering myself, nurturing better relationships with my friends and family. I busied myself making my new house a home, growing gardens, writing books and dreaming of how I want my future to look. Sometimes I would feel glum about this fabulous life I was blessed with, and I didn’t understand why. What do I have to be so down about? What is the reason behind the emotions that where affecting my energy and my attitude in negative ways?

I have a wonderful family, a career I truly enjoy, a brown house with several gardens that I love. From the outside looking in, one would say I had it pretty darn great. Yet, this feeling of melancholy was heavy as a weighted blanket just not as useful. I would meditate, drum journey in the garden, exercise and write about how I was feeling. I hoped this would help me move through the uncertain feelings I was experiencing but didn’t understand where they were coming from.

After reading books and watching documentaries about living more sustainably to help the environment, I chose to implement changes in our household and my lifestyle. This led to growing a greater interest in politics, learning what I could do myself to help the greater good. I read self-improvement books, went to classes that helped me process my feelings. I would try to fill up my life with more love by fostering dogs and manufacturing busyness tending to my family and animals seeking to fill a persistent void that seemed like an endless tunnel.

Why was my fabulous life not enough to make me happy? I read a book called ‘The Hope’ by Andrew Harvey and it changed my direction just enough to lead me to where I am today. I believe that I do have more to offer the world, I am a nurturer by nature. It is in my blood to care for others, except my daughter is now grown, my husband is very self-sufficient, and my dogs are good boys who don’t require much doting either.

This left me with tons of nurturing instincts inside and nowhere to use it; I realized this is where my frustration came in. I contemplated fostering children which clearly is a much bigger commitment then dogs. This didn’t seem like the right time in my life and my intuition told me this was not where I would find what I am looking for. I know inside that I am connected to the earth in some way and here to foster in a new way of caring for it. I just did not know what I was supposed to do or how I was going to go about it.

I believe when you want to make the world a better place you start at home. You nurture your relationships, cherish and care for your community and do what you can right where you are. I picked up trash on the county road, became more politically involved and vocal, and I joined the local Friends of the Sherburne County Wildlife Refuge Advocacy committee, so I could have a small part in nurturing a tiny part of the world I hold so dear. Let me tell you that the moment I realized I do have the power to be the change I wish to see in the world, doors seem to fly open, life seemed to hand me magical opportunities to do even more good!

Adventure Sister Stacy tells me this is what happens when you are on the right path of your true-life purpose; what you came to earth to do in this life time. I sincerely hope she is right. I am having the best time moving forward with purpose and laser focused direction to foster in a cleaner, kinder community around me.

Wouldn’t you know it? That feeling of melancholy has dissipated, I wake up each morning excited about what life holds for me. I no longer wonder what to do with my abundance of passion that stokes my desire to care for something bigger then myself. I found it. I am thankful.

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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What does success look like?

I believe success is defined by a subjective point view. What one person consider successful, another may disagree because they view what success means differently. Some people believe lots of money, cars, houses, boats, and toys of all kinds means you are successful in life.

Is that true for everyone? I don’t think so.

Yes, money and all the things it can buy will help you live a more comfortable life. There are plenty of people who have all the money they need and all the stuff they ever wanted, and yet, they’re emotionally miserable because they may not have what they truly need. I believe people need things that cannot be bought and paid for like time, family, dear friends, connection with others, and the feeling of belonging. These ‘free’ things, that are often disregarded when talking about success, are more important then they get any credit for.

I believe being happy and content in the life you live is success. If you can look in the mirror and say “hey, you did your best today. I still like you. You were kind to everyone and everything. Your friends and family still love you” then today was a success! I believe that having a roof over my head, food on the table, love and a purpose to get up in the morning (even on days the only good reason to get up is to feed the dogs I adore and love so much it may be beyond normal)… this is what truly fills my heart when it comes down to it. To me, that is success.

Even when funds seem tight, I still consider my life successful because I have worked hard on being the kind of person I view as successful, which is kind, compassionate, adventurous, smart, and ambitious. I’ve been working on myself to be the best person I can be, and it has been paying off mind, body and spiritually. I decided to set goals for myself and keep them, I decided to forgive myself, I decided to love and respect myself, I decided to treat my body better. I try every day to meet these goals and that feels great.

I have wonderful family and friends that love me through the mistakes or miscommunications.  I feel as though I have a wonderful support system of loved ones, which in turn has taught me to try and be as supportive to others as I feel supported. Being thankful for the people, pets, opportunities and situations that bring me joy and allow me to be authentically me help me feel successful.

How do you view success? What does it look like to you? Go kick butt by being you today! Success is what you make of it.

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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Following my Dharma?

Recently I have an extraordinary amount of physical energy. Not so long ago I required a solid 8-10 hours a night and have sustaining on far less while not feeling deprived of sleep. Along with less sleep, I need to run on the treadmill like a hamster because I must release the energy inside of my body, so I can focus my mind. I have urges to run around the block fifteen time because I swear it feels like I must have drunk the pure liquid energy sucked out of a three-year-old; my whole body vibrates with enthusiasm and endless oomph!

I am so excited about the purpose of my days right now; I feel like I am falling in love with life again. As I talked to my Adventure Sister and soul sister Stacy about all the energy that mysteriously has consumed me. She’s says she learned in her training as a yogi this is what happens when I follow my dharma. Stacy knows me well and understands how passionate I am about my political beliefs, along with devotion and duty I feel when it comes preserving nature. Let’s just say I feel strongly about it. This opportunity to possibly be a State Representative feels authentic and significant to me as it symbolizes the truth of the person I am inside.  Passionate, determined and strong.

Definition of dharma

1 Hinduism: an individual’s duty fulfilled by observance of custom or law

2 Hinduism & Buddhism

a: the basic principles of cosmic or individual existence: divine law

b: conformity to one’s duty and nature

* https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/dharma

Stacy explained that when you are aligned with your ultimate life purpose, you are basically fulfilling the soul contract you made with God/Universe when you incarnate into this existence. She says when you are on the ‘right’ path you will know because you will feel it clearly with balance in all areas of your life. Mind, body and spirit/energy will feel innately whole, life makes sense, it simply feels exactly right. I feel like I have a purpose higher then myself and that makes my soul sing and my heart smile and apparently my body vibrate with an abundance of physical and mental energy. I dig it.

This new form of energy is helping me rise to the challenge of the to-do’s that have been blessed upon me. I find I enjoy all of it. Networking with new friends, connecting with  like-minded people, strategizing, planning, brainstorming, writing… I love that I get to write even more then before. I seem to have endless ideas and words for them too, which comes in handy when you like to write. I just find it crazy the way I physically feel has changed so drastically in just the last few weeks. All because my mindful purpose is aligned with my actions and truly united in my fundamental beliefs.

I felt good enough to break my own record time running on the treadmill today. It’s not the fastest pace in the world but its my personal best and I feel good about it. Feeling great about getting up every day which we all know doesn’t happen all the time… I almost want to compare it to feeling like falling in love with your new born baby. When they wake up at 3am you are excited because you get to look at them again, cuddle them back to sleep and fall in love moment after moment you just can’t get enough or imagine your life any other way. You find a new kind of love you never even knew existed. You just know what your heart tells you.

I feel kind of like that, like I am falling in love with my life all over again but with much more debating and emailing. I am sure every day will be different, yet I am positive that I will be able to handle any situation with patience and an open heart. It just feels like I am indeed exactly where I am supposed to be at the exact right time. It would be supercalifragilistic if this is true! Just sayin’.

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Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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