Are you already there?

 

“There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.” Dr. Wayne Dyer ~

We as humans have a lot of things in common. Like the desire to always want more or get something better than what we already have. Though, even once we get more of what we wanted, we start all over again. The need to want more and have better just seems to keep growing. So, when is what we already have, enough? I think it becomes enough once you learn to be thankful for what we already have and practicing appreciation for how blessed we truly are.

If we have a wonderful marriage and family who loves us unconditionally, why do we complain about their antics instead of speaking to the good they bring to our lives? Do we spend the time maintaining those relationships or is it always the other persons’ job to appease? Do you make others responsible for your happiness or blame them if you are not happy? Do we expect others to entertain us and keep us content?

I read something recently that was very poignant, not only in love but every relationship we are blessed with. It said. “Everyone is always looking for the perfect partner. Yet nobody seems to try and be the perfect partner.”

Are we holding ourselves up to the same standards we hold our loved ones too?

Happiness is an inside job. When it comes right down to it. If you take away all our money, jobs, titles or stuff…. All we ‘have’ to give others and ourselves is love. When you think about it harder; the thing that brings us the most happiness is love!

A piece of our own hearts as currency. To give love is to receive love, it’s simple but complex. Have you heard of the love languages? We all differ in how we can feel and receive love. What makes me feel loved is different than how my husband needs to be treated to feel loved.

In honor of Valentine’s Day, I recommend reading The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. The love languages are: Words of affirmation, Acts of service, Receiving gifts, Quality time and Physical touch.

I found it very helpful in doing my part to maintain a happy marriage. It helped me learn that the way we are able to feel and receive love is different for everyone. But my point is that, no matter where you are in life, the grass is always greener on the other side if you aren’t watering your own lawn. You may find that once you start tending to and nurturing your life, you are able to see just how blessed you really are!

Here is an example: Do we expect our husbands to always cut the grass or shovel the snow while giving nothing in return? How do we show our appreciation for doing his part in taking care of the household duties? Do they need a present or what if we tried to make his favorite supper that night? Would this be a fair give and take exchange of energy and love?

If acts of service aren’t your husbands/partners love language, you may want to try a different approach and buy him a present, sing his praises or maybe even give him a back rub instead.

When we want more happiness, love, opportunity, or success, it helps if we appreciate what it is that we already have. The Universe/God is listening to your vibrations and does not deliver your opportunities when you aren’t appreciating the ones already in your lap!

If you aren’t thankful and appreciating your life as it is, or taking steps to improve it, it just not going to change. As it goes, the Universe delivers more of what you are asking for. If you are perpetually complaining, it’s going to give you more to complain about. If you are forever giving thanks and counting your blessings, it would pose to think you will get more of what you are thankful for.

When you are frustrated and tested, remember that the more you look for the good in the situation the more likely it will turn out good. Your life may not be perfect. But if you take a closer look and see you have love in your heart, family, and friends, a safe warm place to sleep, food on the table and a way to provide this security… you are already there!

You are already at the point in life where you can choose to be happy!

Psst… remember, the feeling is the prayer!

“There is no way to happiness. Happiness it the way” – Dr. Wayne Dyer

Wishing you the magical soulful healing you need right now to be the best you can be.

With love,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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The feeling IS the prayer

Everything in Life is Vibration’Albert Einstein

Have you heard this saying before? I have. Yet it took me a long time to truly understand the meaning behind it. It’s been proven that the energy we hold in our body is real and the Universe responds to our vibrations. It’s just that we usually don’t notice all vibrations, just the big ones.

Like when we walk into a room and people have been fighting or if there is a party and you just feel the excitement in the air. Anger and Happiness are big emotions that throw off big vibrations, making them easier for us to feel. What about other emotions we don’t often like to share with others, like worry or sadness?

I know lots of people who keep those vibes to themselves because we don’t like to share them with our loved ones. Should we share them freely and bring everyone down to our current lower vibe? So we feel like we aren’t alone? I mean, it is no secret that misery loves company, right?

Here is the thing, I started to understand how I share my vibrations and energy, when I learned about energy healing and Chakras. But it wasn’t until I learned a simple trick, that helped me reframe my thoughts and be able to take responsibility for my big emotions and how they ‘feel’. It’s very simple; I just imagine painting pictures of my thoughts.

I am a nurturer by nature, and this means I care a great deal about my loved ones, animals, the planet and folks I have never met. Pretty much everyone. When I care so much it also means I used to worry about things I could not control. Worry is an energetically lower vibe that does not do anyone any favors. Not the worrier or the one you may be concerned about.

 

I used to say. “Worry is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but doesn’t get you anywhere.” I knew my worry wasn’t helping but it did not stop me from doing it!

Then, Stacy mentioned a skill she learned on her spiritual journey, that helped her with worry too. She told me to imagine painting a picture of my thoughts and what that picture of worry might look like if I put it down on paper to gift the person I was worried about.

I am quite certain my painted picture of worry would not be pretty. It certainly would not be full of color and expressing the love I know I hold for that person. It would most likely look like a rainy day full of doom and gloom! Is this the kind of picture I truly want to share with the one I am concerned about?! Um no. It is not.

Instead, I started to retrain my brain to send love and light to the areas or people I was concerned for. This is a much better energetic picture to send someone you care deeply about. When I am worried about my daughter, I send her love. I dig deep down in my heart, bring her smile to my mind and feel the warmth of love and caring I have for her. Then I send that feeling out to God/The Universe to help her feel this energy instead of my worry wart, rain cloud picture thoughts.

This is where and how I learned, that the feeling I was holding was indeed the prayer I was sending out to the world on her behalf.

I have another example. Just last week I found out an old friend had been in a horrible car accident and was in a coma, not doing well at all. Of course, my friends and I were very concerned. Yet, I knew it would do us and our friend in the hospital, no good to send up prayers of worry and sadness.

This person’s soul was in a coma, so I suggested instead of sending thoughts of “Please don’t die.” We need to send this person’s soul love. We needed to paint them a beautiful picture of our love and hope of a great life for them.

Can you imagine if your soul was floating around in the ether and hearing “Please Don’t die!” or “Please stay. You are loved. You matter.” Which prayers do you think would feel better if you could feel their vibrations? Which thoughts and words would have a better picture attached? Which picture would you want to hand over to the person in the hospital bed?

If your soul were floating around and could feel the vibration of thoughts and prayers, which feelings would you like to feel? Which prayer would make you feel like coming out of a coma, a rough patch, or sadness? Which prayer would help your soul feel like persisting on this earthly plane?

This is where, the feeling IS the prayer really makes sense to me. It hit home the effect my vibrations could have on myself and others.

When I shared my thought on this with my friends, half of them really liked the idea and the other half didn’t seem to understand what I was saying. This is okay with me. All I can do is speak my truth, but I am hoping this story will help others see what I see now.

Our friend did come out of a coma, they have a long road of recovery ahead, which is a wonderful blessing. Did our feelings, of raising our vibrational thoughts and prayers, make a difference? I am not sure. What I am sure of is that I sent a picture of love to my friend and not worry or fear. I know this is what I would prefer to feel from my loved ones too.

Remember friends, you are painting an energetic picture for the world to feel.

The feeling is the prayer.

What are your feelings and thoughts painting today?

Thank you, for reading my blog today.

Wishing you an abundance of blessings and joy!

Love,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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*Photo credit – Water color art by me, Emy Minzel