Peanut Butter and Jelly

Jason and I have been married for ten years this summer but we have been together for nearly fifteen years now. That’s a lot of life to travel through together and I am thankful to have my best friend by my side. We mirror each other and have often been each other’s subject of lessons learned in our life together. I am so thankful that we have found a partnership that can stand up to the many tests of time.

My husband and I are very different. He is 6’ 4” I am 5’. He likes indoor activities. I like outdoor activities. He likes to watch sports. I enjoy HGTV and finding DIY projects for us to do together. He allows me to make him “honey do” lists of things I need done around the house. Yet, he will do them only when he is darn good and ready! In turn, I have learned to be patient and thankful that he is here to do them for me in the first place.

He prefers to spend quiet weekends at home. I would rather go out and enjoy friends or activities together. He travels for work, a lot, and I work from home. We have opposite view points on many issues from politics, to how many dogs we should have. As a matter of fact, we are so different, that I believe we are like Peanut Butter and Jelly.

Jason is for sure the Peanut Butter in our relationship. He is the solid foundation on which I share all my flavorful and creative ideas and he does his best to help me make them work. I am the Jelly that adds the flare to our relationship. Sometimes I’m the sweet Strawberry Jelly, other times, I am spicy Raspberry Jalapeno!

I know without the balance and grounding, hearty substance of my husband; who is always his Peanut Butter self. I would be sweet but not satisfied. I really do appreciate and need his foundation of strength and stability. I believe, he also enjoys the joyful energy I bring to the table. We balance each other in many ways but sometimes our tendency to be so opposite brings challenges to our relationship. Yet, so far, they seem to be the reason we work together so well.

No matter how opposed we are, we seem to just know that this is who we are supposed to be traveling through this lifetime with. Even on days I want to tuck into a cannonball and take him out at the knees. 😊  Hey, some times marriage and life can be hard. Even when you love each other, there are days when we don’t particularly like each other.

Knowing that, even on those challenging times when life throws us curve balls or does its best to shake up our foundation, we know we are meant to be together. That random rattling of our foundation actually works to smoosh us together, mixing us up until we are a blended combination that is inseparable, just like Peanut Butter and Jelly.

I know that I am blessed to have found someone who fits me so perfectly, even as opposite as we are. This brings us both opportunities to grow exponentially in many ways. We are both great individually but, put us together and that’s where the magic happens. This is how we expand our possibilities. By accepting our differences and working together to build a relationship; we have sandwiched a beautiful life together.

I think it’s fun to think of different ways to describe or explain complicated matters like relationships. What analogy would you give your marriage or relationship? I would love to hear them!

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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7 ways to spice up your love life on the cheap –

I love that I know a lot about my husband, and he knows me very well too. I know that he is predictable and dependable, I find that to be a great quality to have in a husband. I also find that years of predictableness has me craving a little more excitement in our romance. Like most of the women I know, they feel their husbands are wonderful in many ways but most of them are not fluent in the language of romance.

Men are not usually built to think of ways to woo us, they have other pressing concerns like bringing home the bacon, sports stats, and focusing on picking up the kids at the right time; so, you don’t kill them. Some religiously remember your birthday and anniversary but that’s about as romantic as a lot of men get.

Do they forget their wives, and girlfriends like to still be courted after the excitement of a new relationship gets comfortable and predictable? I don’t think they do, I bet our beloved husbands just don’t know what to do about it. I know I whine and complain about it, yet this certainly hasn’t helped my case any. We have fallen into a pattern that I cherish but is very predictable and I crave a little more stimulation.

So, I ask myself “Is it up to only my husband to make plans to spice up your treasured and dependable romance or is it something I am willing to help with?” After all it does take two to tango. I am not the breadwinner in my family so this makes it challenging for me to come up with ideas I can afford. I find the desire to do something different is helping me along so, here are some inexpensive ideas I’ve come up with.

  • Add a change of scenery – Dining at new to you restaurant or finding a new couple to double date with can help add some action to your marriage. There are other things we can do to add some magic to your love life that will help you enhance the bond you share. When you talk with new people and see new things this gives long married couples something new to talk about.

 

  • Getting out of the house to do something, anything you haven’t done before – Doing new things together gives you experiences and stories to share for days yet to come.  After years of couple hood, I know, and you know we’ve heard some stories a few too many times. Finishing each other’s sentences is not always endearing.

 

  • Make the trip to Target an adventure – Pick a new game to play together and then play it. Making time to hangout with each other doing something instead of watching tv or surfing your smart phone matters. Both men and women need to be heard, appreciated and deserve attention they desire. By focusing on each other it helps us to feel recognized as a romantic interest not just, the mom, the dad or workaholic. Making time for each other to talk and be heard is imperative.

 

  • Clean up your bedroom and make the bed – This suggestion is energetic, I talk a lot about being purposeful, doing these things helps to set the intention of romance. Clearing the space that is meant just for your and your love has energetic importance when it comes to passion. When you clear the clutter, you attract the intention to bed in the middle of the room. Hubba, Hubba!

 

  • If you want to be swept off your feet take initiative to make it happen – My husband likes to remind me he is not a mind reader. He does not know what I desire and need unless I tell him or show him. We have started to make plans for future vacations going places we both can find some adventure and relaxation; the combination seems romantic to me because I will be with him. It is a common goal we can both be excited for while saving to get there. Having something to look forward to helps greatly on the days I am bored out of my gourd while drinking my sex on the beach instead of experiencing it.

 

  • Do nice things for each other often – When my husband is swamped with work, wore out and tired the last thing on his mind is romance. I find it easier to get what I want by helping him get what he needs, and vice versa. If I am frantically working to get everything done on my tight schedule, and he does little things to help me out, like make dinner or clean up for me, the more likely we are to feel like making magic mambo music together.

 

  • Its not all about the sex, but sex is important – Physical connection helps us to feel loved, cared for and helps our brains vibrate with serotonin the chemical in our brains that makes us feel good. When we feel good, we act good, when we act good, we attract more goodness into our lives. Sex is good mmmmkay? Don’t make it icky, it’s a part of the bond that keeps you connected and shouldn’t be neglected. So, put on your fancy britches and show him the Goddess he is so lucky to have in his life.

 

P.s. It is also free.

 

There you have it, advice from a wife who feels the need to spice up monotony of my very cherished beautifully choreographed everyday life. I hope it works for you during this month of love. I’d like to hear your suggestions as well if you have some! Feel free to comment below.

Happy Valentine’s Day

Blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

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Thank you Tempur-Pedic!

Anyone who’s been married for a longer length of time knows that marriage can be difficult somedays. Just like in all areas of life there are ups and downs in relationships that can test your patience, tolerance, and make you go slightly mad. My marriage is no different and not immune to a few battles of wills through our years of matrimony. I’ve mentioned before my husband and I are as different as night and day, this leads to butting heads when we feel we are in the right or being slighted by the other. We are both suborn as a bulldog, we will dig our heals in until we get our way or there is a compromise to be made.

During these tests of wills and wits we have had times when we most definitely do not want to see each other much less sleep next to each other but we always do. When we are so steaming mad and feel like the guest room seems like a tempting escape we never go there. The reason we stay sleeping together when the guest room calls, is our Tempur-Pedic mattress. We are both so stubborn that neither of us are willing to give up our individual love affairs with our king size Tempur-Pedic mattress. We both LOVE it.

It seems silly that something as inanimate as a mattress could have an affect on our relationship, but it does. We both sleep very well since we bought it so neither of us are willing to give up our comfortable sleep because the bone head sleeping next to us made us mad. Besides if one of us really did move into the guest room, the other would probably be extremely obstinate about the temporary abandonment. That decision to leave would most likely then cause another rift in the force of our relationship.

Thank you Tempur-Pedic for making a mattress so comfortable that it has kept our marriage together on the nights we would like to hang each other off the roof by our toenails. Our inflexible bullheaded determination to keep our comfortable night’s sleep has also been at times the catalyst that keeps our marriage together. Isn’t this the epitome of what marriage can sometimes be about anyways? Being so darn stubborn and unwilling to quit or fail that you just keep keeping on.

Being determined to get what you want while not giving up something you love is part of making a marriage work. Being willing to compromise just enough that you are able to hold true to your needs and values. By staying together even if it was just for the pigheaded determination to get a good night’s sleep, it also cements our dedication to each other even at times of difficulty. It is because neither of us being willing to leave that solidifies our trust and faith in each other.

So, thank you Tempur-Pedic, from this married couple, you have no idea how many times the comfort of our mattress has spared us from the valley of separateness that could have been instilled between the hallway from the master bedroom to the guest room. The power of a cozy night’s sleep on our Tempur-Pedic mattress, has held us together for better and for worse, in sickness and health, we are thankful for each other and for you!

P.S. I am not a paid spokesperson, advertisement or affiliate of Tempur-Pedic just a well-rested, happily married customer.

P.P.S. For real….We love our Tempur-Pedic!

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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