Will you hold my hand?

Earlier this week, I had a minor surgery to remove a cyst in my neck. The procedure was performed in an operating room. As they wheeled me in, I saw a room full of stainless-steel equipment and nurses bundled up in their surgical garb and masks and remembered I was going to be fully awake for this procedure. The area numbed with Novocain before the doctor was to remove the growth with a scalpel.

Being awake, I made small talk with the nurses, who were very kind and chatted with me too. There was one nurse whose job it was to sit and keep me company, while monitoring my vital signs. I did not think I was nervous since I knew what was going to happen and how it was going to happen. Yet the moment they helped me on to the operating table I seem to have gotten cold feet. I wanted to run away!

When she strapped on the blood pressure cuff, my cover of small talk and cracking jokes was blown! My heartrate and blood pressure were through the roof! Even though I tried to play it cool, statistics showed my body was clearly in fight or flight mode. The nurse, in charge of my vitals, was a welcome distraction from the reality of a large incision being made to my body while awake.

When the doctor walked in, I chatted with her too. She’s become my favorite doctor and I feel very comfortable with her. In my head, I was trying to calm myself, by inducing my own meditative state of breathing deep and such. No luck, my body knew what was going to happen and even though my mind was very logical and factual, my blood pressure was not coming down.

It’s like my body knew trauma was coming and it was very scared. At that moment I knew I needed comfort. I looked at the nurse, who was right next to me the whole time, and asked her. “Will you please hold my hand?”

She obliged kindly and continued to hold my hand for the whole procedure. Doing her best to ask me questions and give me distractions from the doctor and scalpel working diligently behind me. Nurse W told me she was a seasoned nurse, working part-time until retirement. I could tell. She had calmness and caring demeanor only years of practice can produce. It made me feel like I could ask her to help me in the only way she could, by holding my hand.

Isn’t it funny how you can find comfort in a perfect stranger’s hand in a time of trauma, anxiety or extreme stress? Okay, maybe funny isn’t the word. It is quite a miracle and blessing that humans can form a connection so quickly in times of need. What is even more beautiful is the nurse who chose to make this her life path; to help strangers with kindness and compassion in very stressful moments.

Nurses, Doctors, Firemen, Police Officers, Caregivers, are often there for strangers on our most horrible or trying days. The men and women who stand with folks in their community to help them through it all, are very much a blessing to humanity. Not everyone is wired to be able to have a heart, so giving and open, to hold a stranger’s hand even on a regular day with no stress.

Do some people hold more compassion inside then others? I think so. But what I find is that even those of us who aren’t comfortable with unfamiliar people will still offer comfort in times of duress, even if they too are stressed. Is this a characteristic built into our DNA, to care for others when it is most needed? Is it an innate knowing that we are all connected by the spark of God, that brings us all to life? I do not know. But I’d like to think so.

What I do know is that I am very thankful for the nurse who held my hand that day. She kindly offered me comfort and did her best to divert my attention from the surgery happening while we talked. I cannot help but use this scenario as an analogy of life.

It is on our hardest, most challenging days, that we need others help us get through.

Unfortunately, these days aren’t always as obvious as being strapped to an operating table. Sometimes there are strangers walking past us in the grocery store or working in the cubicle right next to you; that are having one of the worst days of their lives. Inner trauma is just as painful as physical trauma, just in a different way.

Wouldn’t it be nice if we could all live heart-centered lives so that others would feel safe in asking; “Will you please hold my hand?” when they need it most?

Even if it is just for a short time, your compassion does make a difference. Kindness is a characteristic that we must practice to be good at. Seeing folks in our community as extended family, instead of strangers, is where we can start. Do unto others and such. Remember, even a kind stranger serving as a short distraction from pain (in any form) can make a huge difference in the world.

Thank you for reading my blog today.

May you find comfort and love all around you. May you have the chance to act as comfort and love to another.

Wishing you an abundance of blessings,

With love,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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My husband ~ My ordinary everyday hero

Is there divine intervention that happens, to put the people you need in your path, at the time you need them? Is it fate or divine order? I think there has got to be a little of both. I feel like my husband and I were put together at the right time, in the right place and for the right reasons.

Jason and I met at work, I was 28 and he was just turning 30. We dated four years before we got engaged. We were both doing our best to take it slow to make sure we were both happy in this relationship. My daughter was 11 and a huge factor in our relationship, it was imperative and non-negotiable that they got along.

Thankfully, Jason has a great sense of humor and handled it with laughter when Danica tried to frost his bald head with a spatula full of chocolate frosting. One of the first times they had met! They have been jokesters with each other ever since. He was very inclusive of her and their relationship has blossomed. At the age of 16, my daughter asked to change her last name to Jason’s last name, because he was more of a father to her than her own.

My husband had to go through many tests before I knew he was ‘the one’. I was not exactly an easy girlfriend, I was highly independent and had all that I needed; a car, a job, a house and a wonderful little girl. He was going to have to bring something to the table that I did not already have. What I needed was a best friend and companion to be my partner through life. I needed someone who made me laugh and help me do the things I could not. Someone who would stay by my side through the good times and bad.

Previous relationships I had experienced, were not horrible, for the most part. They were just not enough. When Jason and I met we said; “It took me so long to find you, I am not letting you go now.” We both felt that the life we lived before, was not nearly as good as when we finally found each other. So, I want to tell you what he does that makes me feel lucky to have an ordinary everyday hero like my husband.

My husband is always there for me and our daughter, Danica. He checks in morning, noon and night; just to keep in touch. His work has us away from each other quite often. We always let one another know when we get to where we are going. So, the other won’t worry. He also is always ‘there’ for his family and mine. Even if he doesn’t want to, he shows up, because he knows it matters and he loves me. Jason is the kind of husband who grumbles about going to some events but doesn’t let me down.

The first time I thought of him as an everyday hero, was the morning he acted as the best husband in the world. He woke up extra early to drive me to the airport. That morning I wanted to fill up the bird feeder before we left, while still dark. When I did, I stepped in dog poop! Yet, I did not notice until five minutes after we had left and were well on our way!

I was about to lose my cool and have a meltdown. I was horrified at the possibility of being the person on the plane that smells like dog poop! My husband just kept his calm used the random tools he had in his truck and a bottled water; to help clean it off and take care of me in a parking lot at 4:30 am. So, I didn’t have to fret. I’m telling you, at this moment, his help was like an angel sent from heaven just for me.

He takes care of me in other little ways almost every day. This morning he made my coffee. Yesterday he made me an oak bookshelf and one for my mom too.  The day before that, he held me and made me laugh about the week we had endured together; while both inflicted with the stomach flu. Day in and day out my husband is steady and here for me. He works, he comes home, he loves me and our daughter and will do all he can to give us the best life possible.

When I look at my handsome husband’s regular looking life, I see what it looks like to be an ordinary everyday hero.

It’s the men that show up to support you, who keep their word, who don’t leave when times are tough, money is low or tragedy hits that are the real heroes. He is still here, holding me, loving me and taking my crap through it all. My husband is not perfect, and I don’t want him to be. I just need him here with me. Being himself; the loyal, hardworking, handyman that makes my heart pitter patter is all that matters.

Some hero’s rescue you from a burning building. My husband saves me from day’s that feel like this, even if I’m the one who started the fire. (or stepped into some poo!) He is very much my best friend, my confidant, and my hero. I have known him for going on fifteen years, and watching him live with integrity, has earned my devotion and respect. When it comes to what matters, his consistent actions have made me quite certain, I picked the right one.

Thank you, Universe/God for the divine intervention of putting us on the same path. We have been taking turns rescuing each other ever since. I know I am incredibly blessed to have someone who loves me and helps me grow. I am beyond grateful for my husband. My ordinary everyday hero.

I’d love to hear what makes your husband or partner, your hero!

With love,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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2018 Review!

What are you proud of and what could you do better?

If I were to make an adult report card about life, I feel like there are major courses we all have in common. Each of these life courses may demand more time than others at times, so they cannot always be as equal as we would like them to be. Balance is good thing, but when life hands us assignments, it’s not always in manageable bite size pieces.

This year I wanted to grade myself on my personal performance in 2018. Then use it as a guide going into 2019 so that I know where I need to focus my attention. Here are the courses of life in which I am going to grade myself and do my best to be realistic yet kind; so that I don’t romanticize areas in which I can improve.

2018 Report Card

Family Relationships = B

Marriage/Love = C+

Career & Money = C-

Health & PE = F

Passions & Hobbies = B

Family 2018 – I believe that relationships with my closest family members have improved this year. We all have grown on personal levels and learned to accept and respect each other for who we are. Yet there is always room for improvement. We could be closer, and I would like to work more towards that going forward.

Family 2019 Goals – Spend more time with my mom, daughter and extended family. This summer has been crazy busy, and I did not get to spend as much time as I would have liked to with my favorites. To rectify this, I’d like to plan some girl dates and outings that support team work and relationship building.

Marriage/Love 2018 – I put marriage in its own category because I believe it is a separate relationship that takes much more tending to. 2018 has been a major year of transformation and growth for my marriage. I admit that not all of it was as perfect as the pictures I post on Facebook. To be honest, we had a very trying year. Yet by the end of 2018 we are better than we had been all year. We made it through the growing pains, we got stronger and our marriage muscles improved from this struggle. We both have sincerely thanked each other for the life lessons we seem to have given during the past year.

Marriage 2019 Goals – We hope to use those lessons as stepping stones. I am thankful for our love and communication skills that helped us through really trying months. I will not take my husband’s love, support and loyalty for granted. I realize that there are ways I can improve my part of the relationship. Like not blaming him for things we both have a part in creating. Again, I must work on myself by managing my time, emotions and expectations to better benefit our relationship.

Career & Money 2018 – Like the teacher who is hard on you because they know you can do better, I’m going to be very tough on myself in this area because I feel like I need to be. Although I have worked harder this past year than I ever have in my life! My bank account does not reflect a smidgen of the effort I extended, and this is not okay with me. In a world that sees success as dollar signs; I know that I need money to accomplish the things I want to. I’ve got Adventures to go on gosh darn it!

I am doing my best and working hard to make a career by following my heart and passions. While reality is that my real-life needs are not being met by doing so. This current situation frustrates me beyond words because I love being a Massage Therapist. I love helping others feel better in their own skin.

Owning your own business is not easy. It’s taken me eight years to build my practice and gain clients to be financially successful… and only one summer to feel like I hit a massive recession. Currently my career is not supporting the lifestyle I wish to live. Now and it’s up to me to decide what I am going to do about it besides complain. I’ve got to get back to good in this course!

Career & Money 2019 Goals – I just don’t know how to justify doing what feels good and following my heart; when it does not support my other human needs and wants. I am hoping the Universe/God sends me some signs of relief soon. That being said; I am very proud of myself for overcoming my fears and taking the chances I did.

I used every single ounce of courage I had to run for State Representative so that I could affect the change I wished to see in my government and community. I lost the election, but I learned a great deal and had a magnificent life experience. I am proud of myself for that. Yet, doing so had a negative effect on my income and career that I did not anticipate.

If I choose to run again, I will now have the experience and knowledge of what to expect, which should help me prepare.

Health & PE 2018 – Although I lost weight in 2018, I know I failed health class. I will not candy coat it in anyway because I would be lying. I had an adventurous and fun yet, very stressful year, that had me reaching out for the comfort of all my bad habits I had thought I was over. I started smoking again, I was not eating nutritious foods and basically lived off wine and pizza. I was not exercising except when I was out door knocking or in a parade.

It was the stress and anxiety that helped me lose the weight. Yet during the short time between the election in November and ringing in the New Year, I have put every single pound back on. I was seeking consolation through food and eating my feelings. Not healthy and I know it. Time to regroup and recoup.

Last, but not least. I learned that I have a strong tendency to fall back into old habits.

Health & PE Goals 2019 – This year I will focus on losing the weight in a healthy way. Giving my body what it needs to be its best. Utilizing nutrition and exercise will be my number one goal for healthy living. I will give my body the proper nutrition it needs with whole foods and stop feeding it sugar and pizza!

I need to love myself enough to say no to things that insult my body, mind and spirit. I must love myself enough to make decision and choices that heal, not harm my body. I know better, I must do better.I have resolved to manage my stress with exercise instead of the brain changing chemicals of smoking. (So far, so good!)

From what I remember, I used to like to exercise! Dance parties in the kitchen are back into my routine and squats while I fold laundry are now on the schedule most every day. I have a goal to start running again too! I am ready for this change.

Passions & Hobbies 2018 – Although this year was plum full of goal setting, and dream chasing I feel like I had a really hard time with balancing it all into life. I gave myself a B, because I had a very adventurous year doing things, I never dreamed I would do.

Yet, I still did not do much of the things that bring me to balance. Like camping in the Boundary Waters Canoe Area or kayaking and spending time on the water. I justified this by saying if I didn’t run for office, I may not have the BWCA to escape to in the future. When I should have made time to go because that is where I feel my connection to spirit the most. After all, it was my passion for the environment that led me to running for office.

In 2018 Stacy and I submitted our book proposals three different times and where unsuccessful. I will not let this dishearten my resolve but will work harder to get better so that we will succeed.

Passion & Hobbies 2019 Goals –

I allowed the demands of my time to pull me from my spiritual path at times. I now see I need those time outs to center my soul and listen to my inner guidance. Being realistic with the timeline of achievements will benefit my state of mind too.

Adventure Sister Stacy and I know that 2019 will lead to another book to add to our Trilogy and are excited to get to work on it!

I’d like to work on my public speaking ability in 2019 also. It is an area in which I would like to improve for the sake of my own personal growth. In 2018 I learned that facing my fears is difficult, but the reward is worth it.

I am extremely proud of my courage, tenacity, persistence and dedication I showed I am capable of in 2018. There are many areas in which I see I can improve, like working on my closest relationships that took the back burner as I chased my dreams. I have learned the value my time and the importance of balancing it.

Comments:

Look at that! I have not only grown older but maybe even a little wiser! 2018 has been full of lessons and growth that have led to setting more goals. Self-improvement is something I work on every day. Working on ourselves is important so that we don’t blame others for situations in our lives. It helps us take responsibility for where we are, where we are going, how we are going to get there and who we are while we are there.

You cannot change others, you can only change yourself!

I tend to look on the bright side of things, so I had to be tough on myself in this report card. As you can see 2018 GPA has some room for improvement! My hopes are that these grades will serve as a tool to continue my own personal growth. I can’t wait to see this report card come up in my timeline over the next years to compare!

When we put our pro’s and con’s down on paper its easier to see how far we’ve come in one year and how far we have yet to go!

What lessons have you learned during 2018?! I’d love to hear how you’ve grown!

May your 2019 be full of blessings and Lessons through Joy!

With love,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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What if we all just love each other?

It is common for people to fear what they don’t understand. When you don’t know how to overcome or process fears, fear becomes hate. When you compare all your differences instead of your commonalities visions and truth are skewed, perceptions are half-truths. I denounce organizational practices that use scare tactics to keep people separated and fearful, knowing full well Unity is where the power is. When an organization, religion or race is spurred to be fearful of another it turns into “Us vs. Them.”

I believe the Higher Power gave us free will to make our own decisions. We can choose to use our curiosity to learn about others instead of imagining false reasons to fear someone you do not know. I do not buy into any separation of myself, other humans or living beings on this planet. I do not think any living being is less or more important then myself. I believe in helping and supporting others who are doing the best they can in the everyday struggle of life. I know we all struggle in our own ways.

I believe must not fear or try to make life harder for others because you do not have the same beliefs, religion or culture. I believe when we show compassion to others it is good for both souls. I believe refugees do not leave the country they love to unless they feel they must. Would you? What does it say about me if I choose not to see through the color of skin or religion into the soul inside? Maybe they fear me in the same way? Should they?

Why don’t we open conversations and get to know others who are much different in your perception? I bet if you took the time you would see, most people have very similar wants and needs. I want healthy food to eat, clean water to drink, a safe place to lay my head at night and a good life for myself and family. I want peace. I bet that is what you want too.

I want opportunities of success for my daughter and her children who are not born yet. I want the same for your children and grandchildren too. I imagine a world full of good will, unity and cooperation. Can you imagine how the world would look if we thought of our neighbors and other countries as family? I bet we would not fear others and practice wider acceptance of characteristics we do not share.

You could look at your neighbor with different color skin, or the woman who drums in her garden with compassion and acceptance as if they were your beloved aunt or uncle. You may even think “Oh that’s just Auntie Em, doing her thing, not hurting anybody, she will stop banging that drum soon.” Or you may think “Uncle Joe is preaching to the choir again!” You would not roll your eyes in annoyance because you know his heart is made of gold. We choose to practice compassion and acceptance when we share connection.

Why do we continuously choose not to see we are ALL connected? I believe we can change our thought and beliefs. When you change the way you look at things, what you look at changes. When I look for negative things about others, I find them every time. When I choose to look for the good in others, I find it every single time. I am choosing to believe in my faith of a kind, loving, and compassionate world full of great neighbors and family. To do this I have to start in my own back yard, in my town, in my state. Every day I choose to actively practice acceptance, choose love, and choose faith over fear.

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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Gus n’ me

People who know me, know that I am an animal lover. I love all animals, even the rodent kind, the crawly kind or big and scary kind. I wasn’t always like this, but I am now and there is no turning back. I am champion of animal rights and the humane treatment of all animals, but my favorite kind of animals are dogs. I love them like crazy, and most of the time I like them more than people.

Dogs are soulful companions that know instinctively if you are mad, sad, happy or just need a cuddle. They live in the moment, and they love without judgment or expectations. It only takes about 30 seconds for me to fall in love with most every furry four-legged friend I meet. It’s easy make friends with a dog, don’t you think?!

I have been blessed enough to have companionship of my bulldog Gus for over 12 years. I tell everyone who has the pleasure of meeting him, that he is my best friend. I even tell my husband that Gus and I are 100%, without a doubt, in love. Gus is kind of a meat head, not super friendly to all dogs, and before he grew old, he had a tendency to run away and chase cars, which scared the crap out of us at the same time.

My husband sees how upset I would get after these events and say that Gus is like a bad boyfriend that I keep coming back to! We laugh about this because I just cannot help but love my Gus for all that he is, we have a bond, and soul connection. He’s a lover, fighter, cuddle bug, sensitive badass, we call him the ‘fun police’ for his intolerance of shenanigans. He is full of character all wrapped up in an adorable mean muggin’ furry faced package.

Yes, Gus and me, we are in love. I will take his side and have his back until his last breath. He is my best friend. I am his. I cannot compare human love to dog mom kind of love. It is special in its own way. Dog moms know exactly what I am talking about.

Puppy love is very much like the love I feel for my own child, just a little different and without the drama and sassing back. Now that I say that…. It’s not true, he does sass back, will give me dirty looks, and when he runs away there is always drama. Because there is so much love between us, I worry. I sincerely consider him my friend.

I recently saw on Facebook that an acquaintance of mine lost her dog just last night. This sweet woman is very much into the dog rescue world and is a rescue rock star for my favorite local rescue organization. Her best friend got out of the house and they could not find her for a whole day and when they did it was too late. Her fur friend was gone, passed over the rainbow bridge to wait for her there.

My heart breaks for her, I know how in love she was with her best fur friend and I know she is grieving the loss tremendously. Not everyone is a dog person, but the ones that are know how significant the love you share with your dog can be. I have lost very special dogs in my life, and I know it doesn’t matter how they go, it matters that they are gone. Your friend is just gone, taking a large chunk of your heart with them.

I will do it again. I will choose to fall in love with more furry friends throughout the rest of my lifetime. After every heartbreak I know the pain of loss is healed by giving more love. It takes time to heal from loss, not just the human loss but any being that touches your soul and seems to always take that part of your heart with them when they pass.

Loss of loved ones makes me know for sure that our soul, our energy, our love, is fluid and moving, for some of my heart is up in heaven waiting for the rest of me when I get there.

Today I will count my blessings, give extra love to all my family and friends, especially my furry friends.

Wishing you an abundance of love and blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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Something bigger than myself

For the last five years, I have been extremely introverted, focusing on bettering myself, nurturing better relationships with my friends and family. I busied myself making my new house a home, growing gardens, writing books and dreaming of how I want my future to look. Sometimes I would feel glum about this fabulous life I was blessed with, and I didn’t understand why. What do I have to be so down about? What is the reason behind the emotions that where affecting my energy and my attitude in negative ways?

I have a wonderful family, a career I truly enjoy, a brown house with several gardens that I love. From the outside looking in, one would say I had it pretty darn great. Yet, this feeling of melancholy was heavy as a weighted blanket just not as useful. I would meditate, drum journey in the garden, exercise and write about how I was feeling. I hoped this would help me move through the uncertain feelings I was experiencing but didn’t understand where they were coming from.

After reading books and watching documentaries about living more sustainably to help the environment, I chose to implement changes in our household and my lifestyle. This led to growing a greater interest in politics, learning what I could do myself to help the greater good. I read self-improvement books, went to classes that helped me process my feelings. I would try to fill up my life with more love by fostering dogs and manufacturing busyness tending to my family and animals seeking to fill a persistent void that seemed like an endless tunnel.

Why was my fabulous life not enough to make me happy? I read a book called ‘The Hope’ by Andrew Harvey and it changed my direction just enough to lead me to where I am today. I believe that I do have more to offer the world, I am a nurturer by nature. It is in my blood to care for others, except my daughter is now grown, my husband is very self-sufficient, and my dogs are good boys who don’t require much doting either.

This left me with tons of nurturing instincts inside and nowhere to use it; I realized this is where my frustration came in. I contemplated fostering children which clearly is a much bigger commitment then dogs. This didn’t seem like the right time in my life and my intuition told me this was not where I would find what I am looking for. I know inside that I am connected to the earth in some way and here to foster in a new way of caring for it. I just did not know what I was supposed to do or how I was going to go about it.

I believe when you want to make the world a better place you start at home. You nurture your relationships, cherish and care for your community and do what you can right where you are. I picked up trash on the county road, became more politically involved and vocal, and I joined the local Friends of the Sherburne County Wildlife Refuge Advocacy committee, so I could have a small part in nurturing a tiny part of the world I hold so dear. Let me tell you that the moment I realized I do have the power to be the change I wish to see in the world, doors seem to fly open, life seemed to hand me magical opportunities to do even more good!

Adventure Sister Stacy tells me this is what happens when you are on the right path of your true-life purpose; what you came to earth to do in this life time. I sincerely hope she is right. I am having the best time moving forward with purpose and laser focused direction to foster in a cleaner, kinder community around me.

Wouldn’t you know it? That feeling of melancholy has dissipated, I wake up each morning excited about what life holds for me. I no longer wonder what to do with my abundance of passion that stokes my desire to care for something bigger then myself. I found it. I am thankful.

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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The Golden Rule –

I had a conversation with my Adventure Sister Stacy that was a little uncomfortable for me because I felt like I had to tell her something that may hurt her feelings. She asked me for my honest feedback on a sensitive topic and I felt that what I had to say may be taken the wrong way. I did my best to deliver ‘my truth’ with kindness while still standing in the uncomfortable position of telling her what she asked me to. I let her know ‘how it is’.

I told her my thoughts then I told her that I love and support her as well. I went on to give her a different point of view, and a tangible suggestion ‘fix’ the  outcome of the message she way trying to deliver. Stacy and I have built our relationship bond by being very honest with each other, even if what we have to say my not be what the other wants to hear. We carefully deliver our opinion’s in a kind way that we both know is not intended to hurt but to help one another.

We believe it is a blessing to have someone in our lives that love us enough to tell us ‘how it is’. When we ask for help we end up connecting with others because asking for help make you vulnerable. When you trust someone not to push their agenda on you but to rather look at the greater whole of what the situation entails and see from a different perspective it’s a magical thing. When you trust the person who is giving you feed back has your greatest good in mind makes it easier to hear the hard truth.

It is hard to acknowledge that someone’s opinion is just a perspective from another view. Their view may not resonate with you. What they say may not be your truth but it is someone else’s truth and you should be aware of how your actions or opinions affect others. Most people do not go about life asking for constructive criticism because they don’t want to hear what others have to say. Just because you willfully walk through life without acknowledging your affect on others does not exempt you from how they feel about it.

Ignorance is bliss, some say. This would be true when we talk about who we are, what we say, and how we act, and what we do, we never truly know how others perceives us. We will not grow if we choose not to take responsibility in our part of the greater whole totality. We are just one piece of a worldly puzzle made up of our families, friendships, community, Country and even globally. Everyday actions really do have a butterfly affect outcome in the world even if you refuse to acknowledge it. Who you are and what you do matters.

The Golden Rule is “Do unto others as you would have done to you.” This should be incorporated into the wholeness in life, not just to people you like, but to people you don’t like, animals and the planet. If we practiced kindness in all situations even the crap ones, the whole world would be a kinder place and not so scary. What if we tried to remember we are all brothers and sisters all sentient beings having our own experiences on this planet trying to do our best just to have a good day, drink clean water, and breathe.

If we remember that our words, actions, and demeanor have consequences we are not aware of, we may not be so quick to judge or hate our neighbors or people who are ‘different’ from us. If we all treated each other with the reverence you would treat your best friend, imagine what a wonderful world we would be able to create. Call me naive but I believe a kinder gentler world is possible if we all just try to practice the Golden Rule even in times we are called to ‘tell it like it is.’

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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