Are you already there?

 

“There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.” Dr. Wayne Dyer ~

We as humans have a lot of things in common. Like the desire to always want more or get something better than what we already have. Though, even once we get more of what we wanted, we start all over again. The need to want more and have better just seems to keep growing. So, when is what we already have, enough? I think it becomes enough once you learn to be thankful for what we already have and practicing appreciation for how blessed we truly are.

If we have a wonderful marriage and family who loves us unconditionally, why do we complain about their antics instead of speaking to the good they bring to our lives? Do we spend the time maintaining those relationships or is it always the other persons’ job to appease? Do you make others responsible for your happiness or blame them if you are not happy? Do we expect others to entertain us and keep us content?

I read something recently that was very poignant, not only in love but every relationship we are blessed with. It said. “Everyone is always looking for the perfect partner. Yet nobody seems to try and be the perfect partner.”

Are we holding ourselves up to the same standards we hold our loved ones too?

Happiness is an inside job. When it comes right down to it. If you take away all our money, jobs, titles or stuff…. All we ‘have’ to give others and ourselves is love. When you think about it harder; the thing that brings us the most happiness is love!

A piece of our own hearts as currency. To give love is to receive love, it’s simple but complex. Have you heard of the love languages? We all differ in how we can feel and receive love. What makes me feel loved is different than how my husband needs to be treated to feel loved.

In honor of Valentine’s Day, I recommend reading The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. The love languages are: Words of affirmation, Acts of service, Receiving gifts, Quality time and Physical touch.

I found it very helpful in doing my part to maintain a happy marriage. It helped me learn that the way we are able to feel and receive love is different for everyone. But my point is that, no matter where you are in life, the grass is always greener on the other side if you aren’t watering your own lawn. You may find that once you start tending to and nurturing your life, you are able to see just how blessed you really are!

Here is an example: Do we expect our husbands to always cut the grass or shovel the snow while giving nothing in return? How do we show our appreciation for doing his part in taking care of the household duties? Do they need a present or what if we tried to make his favorite supper that night? Would this be a fair give and take exchange of energy and love?

If acts of service aren’t your husbands/partners love language, you may want to try a different approach and buy him a present, sing his praises or maybe even give him a back rub instead.

When we want more happiness, love, opportunity, or success, it helps if we appreciate what it is that we already have. The Universe/God is listening to your vibrations and does not deliver your opportunities when you aren’t appreciating the ones already in your lap!

If you aren’t thankful and appreciating your life as it is, or taking steps to improve it, it just not going to change. As it goes, the Universe delivers more of what you are asking for. If you are perpetually complaining, it’s going to give you more to complain about. If you are forever giving thanks and counting your blessings, it would pose to think you will get more of what you are thankful for.

When you are frustrated and tested, remember that the more you look for the good in the situation the more likely it will turn out good. Your life may not be perfect. But if you take a closer look and see you have love in your heart, family, and friends, a safe warm place to sleep, food on the table and a way to provide this security… you are already there!

You are already at the point in life where you can choose to be happy!

Psst… remember, the feeling is the prayer!

“There is no way to happiness. Happiness it the way” – Dr. Wayne Dyer

Wishing you the magical soulful healing you need right now to be the best you can be.

With love,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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Yin/Yang, Light and Dark…

Adventure Sister Stacy and I were having a conversation on the phone while she was at the airport. She said, “I have to let you go. I am just about to go through security screening.” Before we hung up, I said. “Be sure to thank the TSA Agent for working for free! Love you, bye!” We hung up, but she called me right back after she got through. Stacy told me she had indeed talked to the Airport Security Guard.

Stacy said. “My friend says to thank you for working for free.”

The Agent said. “Thank you. Thank you, for that recognition.”

Stacy headed toward her gate then decided to give me a call right back to ask me “What that was all about?”

She did not know, that during the government shutdown, almost a million people are not getting paid. Even the people who have the duties of keeping the United State safe like; TSA, Air Traffic Controllers, and the Coast Guard. (And so many more!)

This surprised me because Stacy is very well-traveled, but this was the first she was hearing of this! If she (who travels weekly for work) did not know this was happening, I am sure there are lots of folks who do not know the sad effects of the government shutdown. I get so concerned over this. Which may be why I feel so strongly about sharing my thoughts and views of the situation. As I did, I noticed how passionate I got.

The previous conversation we just had was upbeat and quite ‘normal’ for us. We talked about our plans for the weekend and how well our New Year resolutions were going. We chatted away about how excited we were for our trip to Florida that is coming up quickly. Yet, when she brought up this topic, I could hear my voice get stronger and my words were intensely passionate; as I started throwing out ‘F bombs’ to clearly articulate my dissatisfaction on the matter.

I finally realized that I was not acting in the same way I had been just minutes earlier. It was like a light switch had been dimmed and I was sucking all the joy out of the air. I know life is not always joyous, but I am glad I recognized this effect on the energy I was sharing, and I calmed down. Yet, my compassion for those who are suffering was clear.

As a massage therapist and energy worker, I understand that words and actions have more power then we care to take responsibility for. I have spent a great deal of time working on myself, to be the change I wish to see in the world, by doing my best to be the light. I do this by staying positive, looking for the bright side of situations, and doing my best to be kind and compassionate. This is the me I do my best to be every day.

Still, I find myself acting in the exact opposite way when I get riled up about things I care deeply about. I do my best not to belittle or insult others in a debate about the state of our Union or the environment. Yet, I will not sit back, be silent and just go with the flow. I don’t like where the flow is going in our Country, our communities or even how our friends and families have become so divided over these situations.

I have spent years reading and learning about our environment, soil health, water health, food health, and the pollution levels around our Country. I feel it has helped shape who I am. After all, the things you are passionate about are not always just hobbies. Your passions just may be your calling; the reason your soul is put on this planet in the meat suit you wear. Your passions are intertwined with emotions that form what you feel connected to. It is easy to see why we may get riled up or “excessively expressive” when discussing them.

I wasn’t always interested in Politics, but I have learned that I must get interested and involved to be able to affect the protection of our environment and our communities. It was never a dream of mine to put myself ‘out there’ as a politician. I want to be an author who writes… at home, holed up like my inner Hermit prefers. Yet the interests I have been drawn to are the passions I cannot ignore. They have led me to a Political path as if by magic.

However, I find political action uncomfortable some days when I realize how it tends to pull out just how much duality I truly embody. As nice as I can be, I can be exactly the opposite. As sincerely complimentary, kind, happy and compassionate as I can be… I can also be as guarded, skeptical, angry and stubborn in standing firm to protect my integrity. This is our reality and I refuse to stick my head in the sand pretending life is perfect and discord does not exist.

I think to myself. “If ordinary folks like you and me don’t work to change it for the better… who will?”

Then there are days when I also think. “Who am I, to think I can change anything, anyway?!”

I believe we were created to have these opposing characteristics for this exact reason. To protect what we love. To defend our truth and be able to protect ourselves from others, who may not be acting with integrity for the greater good. I can be as different as the sun and moon or night and day and sometimes that is confusing to myself and others.

I know, you know, what I am talking about. Light and dark, Yin and Yang all reside in us for a purpose. There are many ways we can go about this, but I try to do it in a kind way. Yet, as nature created me to be, I am whole because I have both light and dark inside. It’s up to us to determine how much of each we use in our lives and how we use it.

Remember (dark/night/moon) doesn’t necessarily mean bad! It is a way to see things in a different light. It’s no different than when you go through a ‘bad’ experience and come out of it changed. We need this duality to grow. After the dark winter comes the growth of spring. I have learned not to fight my dark side but embrace the opportunity it gives me to grow. I feel I am growing now after this one conversation with my friend Stacy.

I told her about how the government shut down is affecting many lives. It disturbs me how many people have no idea that there are wonderful humans at airports and other public safety personnel, working for free to keep Americans safe. Regular folks like you and I, are making sacrifices, enduring emotional and devastating financial effects, going without lifesaving medications for a reason that they have no control over. All for a wall, that won’t stop boats, ladders, tunnels or airplanes.

Even if we don’t see it, the reality is, lots of good people are hurting and I have a very strong opinion about that. I had to make sure my friend was aware of this reality. Stacy likes to stay away from conversations of politics and I don’t blame her! I know lots of my friends and family who feel the same. I am just thankful she let me share my strong feelings with her, even when it is not a positive conversation. I feel better thinking I am spreading awareness in hopes of facilitating change for the better.

To be honest, some days I think of walking away, from Politics too, for my own peace of mind. Yet, although I prefer peace, for some reason I have been created to square up and be willing to face conflict head-on. Maybe I was a warrior in another life? I don’t know why I am this way. I just am. No different than a mama bear really.

What I do know is that the Universe/God/Creator gave us these gifts of duality and we should not be afraid of them.

I say embrace your duality with open arms. We should not be afraid of the darkness if we are doing what we can, to be the light.

 

With love,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

https://emyminzel.com

@EmyMinzel

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Small Wins have Big Impact

After an emotionally long month on the campaign trail, I finally had a big win. We (my campaign team and I) have been working tirelessly to keep our forward momentum going, and at times it is overwhelming with all to-do’s that need to get done for the campaign, on top of work and home life. Last Friday, we had a fundraiser, at a local business that supports Minnesota’s native environmental restoration and invited many people from my community. I was humbled and felt blessed by all the support of other local business owners, advocates, and neighbors that attended.

I was not nervous at this event and felt that I delivered my speech very well. No note cards needed, it all came from my heart, and thankfully I found the words I needed to express my thoughts and issues I wanted to address that evening. I met many wonderful people, who often told me, “Thank you, for running. We needed you to do this for us, we appreciate your hard work, keep up the good work!” I’m not one who fishes for compliments or praise but for some reason all the thank you I received, really helped me to see that my effort is very much needed and appreciated. Who doesn’t like to be appreciated occasionally?!

It got me thinking, that even though these past months I had been working sun up to sun down, I have also been meeting many wonderful people I would have never had the chance to if I weren’t pursuing this political position. I had a great time at a community picnic I was invited to at the northern end of my district. I was so thankful to be invited and get to meet more people and have the opportunity to make more friends.

I have this habit where I tend to over think, over analyze and stress myself out over things that haven’t happened or (I think) might happen, which has gotten to be quite annoying. You know it’s bad folks when you annoy yourself with your own bull. I think it’s a human trait to make a mountain out of a mole hill when I don’t want to do something. I will procrastinate until I finally give in, only to realize it really wasn’t so bad after all. Why do I do that to myself? I make more stress and anxiety for nothing sometimes.

For example, as a candidate, it is a practice to go “door knocking” to make direct voter contact with your constituents. I haven’t knocked on a door since I was a Girl Scout selling cookies. I was certain, selling cookies, was a much easier sell then selling myself for the State House of Representative seat. Turns out, I was wrong! Door knocking was quite enjoyable, I got to meet more of my neighbors, and get exercise, while also hanging out with a few awesome Emy for House Volunteers that came with me!

I was putting off door knocking because the thought of it made my eye twitch. I have come to find out after I tried it a couple times, that I really like it! Isn’t that funny how we can want something so much but be so resistant to some of the things that move us out of our comfort zone?

Like public speaking, I was terrified at first but after a few times it does get easier. Once I learned to just trust my heart, my words, and to allow myself to be authentically me it was much easier. Going to meetings, community picnics, fundraisers, door knocking, fairs, parades and all the other events and festivities that allows me to meet voters can seem overwhelming, but once I get there, I end up having a great time and I feel energized to keep on keeping on!

Even after a long month of hard work, I have concluded that this political journey is worth all the emotional ups and downs, lack of sleep and sometimes even sacrifice of me time and family time. To be able to work towards the greater good, serving others, seems to be what fills my soul with purpose and joy.

Now if there were only another 12 hours in the day so I could spend more time with my family and loved ones, that would be great! But there is not, and this is the path I have chosen. I have put myself “out there” for my community and for the environment I wish to protect. This path is exactly where I am supposed to be, even when it feels hard, I know it is right.

I am thankful for all the folks who continue to support me and the people I meet that turn into Emy for House Supporters after we talk. Friday’s fundraiser was the emotional reward that I needed to keep carrying on. I am thankful for the moments of Joy that keep me dedicated to winning this election for my community. I am thankful for the opportunity to be so well received while being authentically me. I am feeling very blessed.

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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@emyminzel

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