Flawed perfectionist

One week into the Adventure Sisters 90-day meditation challenge, and I am not failing but I am not doing as well as I hoped. I am not smoking, which is a great thing, and one of the reasons why I decided to jump on board the 90-day experiment with Stacy. I am doing things to manage my stress in healthier ways then I was a week ago. I’m not meditating like a monk yet…

Do I really think it would be possible to learn to mediate like a monk in a week? Why do I set such unrealistic goals for myself? I mean, Monks dedicate their lives to the spiritual practice and I seem to think I can master it in 90 days or less!? Come on girl!

This is not unusual behavior for me, yet when I choose to let the world know what I am up to; like weekly reporting on how I am progressing on the meditation challenge it becomes clear. Things that I didn’t see, are blatant and suddenly coming into my perception. Hello, my name is Emy and I am a flawed perfectionist. I don’t like being so particular all the time, it makes my life more difficult than it has to be!

Today I had a meeting with a wonderful woman I met on the campaign trail. It was about a thirty-minute drive to meet her, so I took the opportunity to turn the radio off and not meditate of course but relaxed and focus on my breath work. I OM’d down the road for fifteen minutes.

It worked, I felt calm when I got the meeting, and we had lovely conversations. Today is not a stressful day. It was very nice actually, yet as I write to report back about my meditation experience, I feel like I could have done better. Not because I am stressed but because I missed a day or two over Mother’s Day weekend.

I had company and a fun filled weekend that didn’t leave much time to meditate. I did still take a few minutes before I got out of bed in the morning to gather my thoughts and say thanks for the day ahead. This really does help me adjust my attitude for the whole day.

Yet I am having trouble taking the time for myself to ‘check out’ relax, or step outside to clear my mind. Behaviors that were cloudy now become clear. Now that I know I like to clear my thoughts while moving my body or being outdoors I can move forward with making sure I schedule these things in my day.

This realization that I don’t make time for myself, will change how I will be implementing my plan going forward into the second week of the meditation challenge. I am choosing to schedule me-time and take it. I will make sure I put it at a specific time that will work the best for me on that particular day, so I am more inclined to achieve my goal.

One day it maybe morning the other may be afternoon or evening. There is no right or wrong time or way to take a few minutes to clear my mind, relax my body and check in with my soul. I will release the thought of perfecting meditation or how I think it looks and just do what feels right for me.

I do feel less stressed then when I started, and that’s a good thing.

How is it going with your attempt at our 90-day meditation? Are you doing well? Are you struggling some like me? I would love to hear from you.

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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Delegating

I am the kind of girl who likes to do things myself. Like my mom likes to say if you want something done right (or the way you like) you must do it yourself. I have had that same train for thought for many years. Often letting it rule most of my time and day.

I wouldn’t allow others to clean because it was not done to my high standards so, I did it myself. I like things to look just so, in the yard, in the house, in my business and so on. I don’t allow others to help me with much of anything really.

Life has taken a drastic change of pace from what I have been used to for the last several years. I had the time and energy to do everything I wanted done myself. Out of necessity, impatience, or shear stubbornness, I have always been self-sufficient.

Until just a few weeks ago when I need to work from the time I wake up answering emails, until bedtime, studying issues for the campaign, working, and writing has left me no time to clean, shop, cook, or even walk the dogs.  All the things still need to get done, I just do not have the time.

This is where the higher power teaches me how to ask for help, and how to delegate. These are not things that come easy or naturally for me. I will ask my husband will pick up something from the store, but I hardly ever ask him to clean the bathroom. The time has come for me to have to ask.

Does it really matter if he doesn’t clean as I would? Does it really matter if the home decorations aren’t dusted or look like they are in the exact right place? Does it matter if I have company come over and there is dog hair on the floor? Probably not. Does it matter if dinner wasn’t cooked the way I would have done it? It doesn’t, in fact it tastes better when I don’t have to cook it!

When it comes to campaign work I find it difficult to delegate even the simplest things like stuffing envelopes. I feel this way because it is my campaign and feel like I should be helping after all! I do like to help. That’s also part of the conundrum I face. I like to be the helper not the helped for some reason…

Going from someone who was able to do it all by myself; to a busy self-employed business owner, writer and Candidate that has more to do then I can get done in a day, is quite a riddle for me. I must learn to let go of how I think things should look and just be grateful that I have help at all.

Delegating is a skill I am working on and it eases my mind is knowing that most people also like to help too. Learning to let go of how I think things should be will help me grow as a person. It also allows others to step up who haven’t had the chance because I never let them. I am also learning it helps to be specific when asking.

Asking for help allows others to support me, when we assist others we feel good. At least I do anyways, and I am going to assume most people feel the same when they feel useful. I believe this lesson is was gentle reminder from up above saying. “Hey you down there, it is okay to ask for help!”

You don’t have to do it all yourself, delegating is entrusting people to help you. This facilitates others feeling good about themselves for being of assistance. It is kind of nice when I put it like that isn’t it?

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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30 seconds or less…

I recently spent four exciting days at a Progressive Candidate Convention in Washington DC, learning how to better express why I am running for State House of Representatives. It sounds simple enough, doesn’t it? Though, how do you sum up your whole life in a 30 second stump speech that makes people say, “Yes, I want to vote for you!”

It’s much more challenging than I gave it credit for. I want to tell you I’m running because I am an advocate for a healthy environment, and I want to help make the world a better place starting where I live. I want to make sure my daughter has future she wants to look forward to instead of being fearful of. I want that for your kids, too.

I was blessed and thankful to attend an inspiring workshop with keynote speakers like Nina Turner, Elizabeth Warren, Bernie Sanders, Keith Ellison and Cynthia Nixon. Their speeches reminded me that I am fighting for working class families that represent most people I know, including myself. That we must stop pointing fingers and get to work progressing towards a positive future. It inspired me to step out and step up to represent the people who believe in caring for each other!

I have managed to work hard to build a calm life I am happy in. I am blessed with a wonderful family, a house I love, and I get to work from home. I keep busy, content tending to my loved ones, my animals and gardens, traveling when I can. I was able to have enough time to write books, start a blog, learn about things I care about, volunteer and live a very peaceful life. I love my calm, tranquil existence.

Honestly, it took long months of deliberation before deciding I wanted to give up this peace of mind for political public service that gets ridiculed no matter which party you participate in. It’s a great deal of time away from your family, your whole life is turned upside down to campaign for a job you may or may not get.

However, it is a job that would allow me push for the changes I want to see in my community instead of just sitting around and complaining about others not doing it for me. I am sick of complaining. I decided I must now try and do something to change it.

I am frustrated at the reduced career opportunities our children have today. Compared to just 20 years ago when I was young. I am mad at the corporate influence on laws greatly affecting the people, the environment, and healthcare costs. Nickel and diming working families to the point of bankruptcy and homelessness.

I am upset at the way we are ripping off social security and the people who paid into it. We should not be dismantling Social Security monies paid to the government for work already done. Citizens trusted government in good faith to keep retirement money safe for our wellbeing into old age. Now they call them “entitlements”? I call BS. A government is only as good as its promises…

These funds were meant to ensure a comfortable retirement for our elders who are now in jeopardy with high prescription costs and poor insurance coverage as we give tax breaks and corporate welfare to billionaires. Healthcare and pharmaceutical laws need a major over hauling to get it working fairly and affordable for all of us. I think we need to expand social security and Medicare to take care of our seniors that built this country!

I am mad that I feel like I MUST leave my fabulous life to do something about it because nobody else wants to step up. Our districts Republican incumbent was running unopposed because nobody else wanted to be the one to represent our Democratic beliefs.

Well, I was raised by a single mother who taught me that if something needs to be done, you roll up your sleeves and get to work. Even the hard stuff. It makes me furious that I feel our country is on the wrong track, our humanity is lacking compassion and empathy. Leaders who divide and separate people by the way they look, or their religion, is not the country I want to see.

I believe that most people are kind and want to help themselves and others. I see some selfish, greedy leaders that do not act in ways that show any real public service, only self-service. Towing party lines to keep their jobs. The United States is a country not a business. We should not be running it as a corporation that does not care about its employees.

I am fighting mad that tax dollars are not being used on the people as they should be. I am perplexed why we keep restricted access to marijuana stepping over millions of dollars in tax revenue while ignoring proven medical benefits. It is inhumane to deny people a natural remedy as opposed to addictive, life altering opioids that are prescribed.

Washington DC has legalized cannabis use for all adults and yet we still have people in prison for it. I am upset that for-profit prisons perpetuate a cycle of reincarceration instead of rehabilitation. I am puzzled why we know that mental health and addiction problems plague our country but yet insurance will not cover treatment. I am fighting mad about insurance too.

Why doesn’t insurance cover all medicine and treatments? Why are people setting up Go Fund Me accounts for life saving medication, like insulin and cancer treatments? Why do we need to pay more to insure your eyes or fix the teeth inside your head? Last time I checked, my head is part of my body and needs to be maintained to stay healthy too. The medical insurance industry is the wild west with lax laws and accountability for service and prescription pricing. One MRI can cost $400 while another $4,000. Unacceptable.

The American people are getting ripped off, enslaved by low wages and high cost of living, rising medical expenses and most of us living paycheck to paycheck, one disaster from bankruptcy or homelessness. I am angry that my 24-year-old has two degrees, is smart, hardworking, and still makes minimum wage not having opportunity to move on in life like I did.

When I was her age, I had a well-paying job with only a high school diploma and was able to buy a house. Our kids today have a mortgage worth of student loan debt and can’t even afford a washer or dryer much less a house to start a family in. Our kids are getting ripped off and so are we.

So here I am, showing up, trying my hardest to get the chance to make changes for a better future. Wanting to fight for my family values of acceptance not hate. I will stand up for my morals of kindness and compassion, knowing most people are good and just want an enjoyable life with their loved ones. It doesn’t matter what color you are, what religion you follow or how much money you make, we all deserve to live a good life.

I wish to stop blaming one side or another and get to work making positive progress in our justice reforms, healthcare and social security. I wish to start enforcing environmental protections not deregulating them. I believe our lack of wanting to get politically involved or not believing we had a voice; led to losing control of the whole political system to corporate overreach, now we have Trump and our Teacher are Striking!

I do not believe that corporations are people.  I support the unions that help us bargain for safe working environments, benefits and livable wages! I believe in equal rights for all and equal pay too! I believe in separation of church and state. I stand with Planned Parenthood.

I refuse to give up and lay down because that’s what they want! As a State Representative I do not get a say in social security or federal issues but I think that any step forward in the direction of compassion and the heath of the people and environment even at the state level will help. That’s what I want the most. To help.

The system was rigged to push us down, to keep us fearful and thinking we don’t matter, but that is not true!

We can, and I will bump back the system when I get the chance to make it work for the working people like you and me once again.

That’s what I know to be true.

Now, how do I get that out in 30 seconds? Any suggestions?

 

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings and peace,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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Untamed

It’s snowing again, it’s the second week of April in Minnesota… will it ever end? The snow seems to fit my mood today. I have been feeling very anxious about the drastic changes in my life that have abruptly altered how I spend my time. Campaigning has been a fun and adventurous undertaking with many positive experiences meeting great people. I feel like I have been dropped into a circus ring. There is a big show going on and I am the wild lion attraction with trainers and everything. Today is the first day I feel like eating my trainers, so I can escape back into the wild.

Is it fear that makes me feel like running? You betchya. Fear of leaving my old life behind to burst into a new way of living my days ahead. The time I get to spend with my family and friends has been drastically modified. My days went from the relaxed peaceful pace of writing and working in tranquility of my home; to chasing my tail and everyone else’s around three counties day and night, working from the time I wake up until way past my bedtime. Endless email chains, demands on my time from people whom I just met and endless flow of information seems to keep pouring into my head.

Currently I have three jobs, I work from home as a massage therapist, I write several weekly blogs while working to completing our three Adventure Sisters book proposals due next week, then I work on campaign duties daily and nearly every weekend. Which means I write and craft my political message while working to meet people who are politically involved in the community. I am listening carefully to their concerns, so I may be better able to help them if elected to The House of Representatives.

One of the best parts of campaigning is hearing from so many of the great citizens from my district and surrounding areas, because I am truly concerned for their wellbeing and happiness in our community. I must remind myself this is the reason I am dedicating my time, attention, and serious effort to move forward in service of my community. Although it is great fun and I am learning so much, it can seem very overwhelming at times. I guess this is what happens when you toss an introvert into the middle of the ring at a circus!

Even though it is uncomfortable, I know that the purpose of it is extremely important to the future of my community. It is a dedication to public service for the greater good, it is the hope of be involved in something bigger than me, that keeps me in the ring so to speak. I know without a doubt that there needs to be progressive change and regular people like me in positions to facilitate it. I realize I am blessed to be able to pursue this crazy political path, I am thankful that it seems to embrace me even more when I am hesitant.

Today I will keep putting one foot in front of the other, checking off items on my ‘to do’ list, knowing that no matter how hard I work or how long I try there is still be more to be done; that is why I will persist even when I want to resist. I will not allow the animal like instincts in me, chase away or eat the trainers that are truly helping me accomplish my goals of representing my community in a nurturing way. I will work on taming my highly-spirited instincts because it is for my own greater good of accomplishing my goals and winning this election. When I win, then I can truly be the change I wish to see in the world.

So, here I am a little wild, full of fight and in the ring at the circus because that is where God/Higher Power guided me. I will use my untamed passion and naturally persistent characteristics to realize I can do this, I am doing this. I got this.

~And so it is!

What do you do when feeling overwhelmed? What keeps you persistently chasing your dreams and goals?

I would love to hear how others people handle their emotions and actions when life paths take a hard left into the unknown forest of life. I love to hear other life experiences so feel free to share them with me!

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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