I gotta say, it was a good day!

Do you ever have an unexpected change of plans that turn out to produce a really great day? I like to think every day I get, is a blessing, but some of them are better than others. Recently I was planning on spending a Saturday taking clients and working around the house. It was going to be a very regular day with nothing particularly exhilarating about it. That soon changed.

The Friday night before; I got a text from a friend telling me their plans had changed and wanted to know if I could accompany them to a pancake breakfast event on Saturday morning. We had discussed this before, but my friend had plans, so I decided to work. On a whim, I texted my client to see if they could come in at a slightly earlier time, and they said: “Yes, that works great for me!” Yay! It worked out and we made plans to attend the event.

Saturday morning, I woke up early, looking forward to my new plans. I had a Reiki session scheduled and energy work is always a great way to start the day! You simply cannot offer energy healing without feeling healed yourself. It raised my vibes and my spirit which helped set my mood for the day. My friend picked me up and we got to the DFL breakfast event in time to see another candidate friend speaking. I also had the chance to catch up with friends I had not seen in months. I love that!

The food was good, the company was great and, for the first time in a long time, I got in front of a crowd and spoke without shaking in my shoes. I spoke from my heart with confidence about my experience running as a Candidate and if I would run for State Representative again. In all honesty, I disclosed that I was not sure if I wanted too. So, the answer was a firm. “I don’t know. But if I do, I will take what I learned and not hold back one bit. I would do my best to leave it all out on the field.”

Simple as sounds, I felt like I had my full confidence back and it was nice to just be me. Growing faith in myself and my voice was a byproduct of running in an election that was scary and completely out of my comfort zone. Looking back, it was a wonderful life lesson and growing opportunity that was good for me. I am enjoying the feeling of truly believing in myself.

After the brunch, I got home to find my husband had cleaned the house! What a wonderful surprise! We were expecting our good friends Stacy and Marty for a visit that evening, so I was thankful for his help. This left me time to rest a little bit, eat lunch, and do my Nabhi Kriya Kundalini Yoga set before they got here.

When Stacy arrived, I had forgotten that she and Marty had decided to donate their old car to me that afternoon! She pulled up in my ‘new to me’ car and gave me the keys. How exciting! We had been running as a one car family, after I crashed my truck this past winter. I am super thankful for the generosity of my friends. I just needed to put some new tires on it and do some other maintenance. And now I have my freedom back and a way to get my kayak to the water this summer!

The evening continued with yummy dinner and lively conversations with our dear friends. Simply happy days like these do not come around as often as we’d like. Lately it seems that there is always something... so I wanted to write about this experience, to remember and cherish the day. Or maybe I feel moved to remind you to notice the small blessings in our every day regular lives? I feel blessed and thankful for this day of unexpected joyful experiences.

I wish for you to have lots of these ordinary yet extraordinarily great days full of blessings and joy too.

Sending love and luck your way,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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Are you feeding your faith or your fears?

They say, what we focus on, grows. Which is why I have been choosing to focus on good, even though I know darn well there is plenty of darkness in the world. I want to grow the goodness in myself, my family, friends, community and even the world if possible.

It seems like a lofty goal doesn’t it?! I mean, who do I think I am, to be able to affect global change for goodness sakes? I am just little ol’ me, a middle-aged woman from rural Minnesota with a humble job and no real connections to ‘greatness’ as defined by society.

But isn’t that the best part of it all? Even though I am just me, a regular Jane, I am choosing to nurture my environment in hopes that the love I have inside my soul will ripple out into the world around me. Listen, I fear plenty of things, but what good does it do? Holding on to fear has an immobilizing effect on me. When I get scared, I just want to hide in my house away from the world. Does this ring true to you?

I’d like to share a little story of my path through fear to reach faith. When I was thinking of running for State Rep, I was fearful of all sorts of things, like losing my privacy. Although I am a writer, who wears my heart on my sleeve, I still cherish my private life. I know I am far from perfect and worried that the world, or my little part of it anyways, might  find out all the lesson’s I learned the hard way. That might lead to judgments from those who think or believe differently than I. Am I prepared to handle those judgments? I mean… it’s guaranteed to be kind of a lot!

One person even told me. “It is truly a selfless act to run as a Democrat in this District.” History shows this is true. All the hard work of Democratic Candidates generally ends in defeat, according to the political election results of previous decades. Is this something I should also fear? Nobody likes to lose, especially when they are working hard and doing their best. Many knew it would probably be a losing fight.

However, no matter what you believe, you cannot win the game if you do not play! Everything about this path scared me. Public speaking was my worst fear magnified by a hundred or more. Everything I said or didn’t say, everything I wore and how I carried myself was up for judgment. This was a very scary arena to jump into as a rookie not knowing what to expect.

Honestly, I was a bit relieved when I didn’t win. I never felt so free in my life! I no longer had to show up with my underdeveloped confidence and a smile on my face as I shook like a hurricane on the inside. I could now relax. At the same time I was sad, depressed and I even mourned the experience. It helped me grow in so many ways that I will never experience again.

Facing my fears, to be part of the change I wished to see in the world, has helped me expand! All of me! Mind, body, spirit and all the energy I give out into the world has been shifted into someone I always knew I was.

Putting aside my fear of failing, or being judged and facing my doubts helped me ‘level up’ as you do in a video game. To stand up for what I believe, even though my anxiety, was the hardest thing I have done in recent memory and worth it even though I lost.

There is so much wisdom in the journey others call ‘failure’ that I no longer consider it a loss at all. I consider the experience of rising above my fears a blessing that expanded my life in ways that didn’t seem possible.

When I came out the other side, I saw that most of my fears were unfounded, unnecessary and failing was a real-life win. Learning to stand and speak my truth fed my soul and gave me true confidence I no longer needed to fake!

Instead of feeling like I was headed to the basement in a scary movie, This experience helps me see I am armed and prepared for whatever I find. I also know that I am perfectly capable of learning what I need on the job or on the fly, to come out alive and well. Choosing to feed my faith in myself and humanity, instead of my fears, has changed me for the better as if by magic.

Feed your faith adventurers, it is life changing.

Wishing you beautiful experiences of faith and love,

With love,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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Oh Joy! Oh joy! Oh joy!

 

When Stacy and I decided to go on our Retreat, we both had our own intentions for the weekend. Mine was to hold the feelings of happiness and the vibrations of joy in my body and mind for extended periods of time. The point of the exercise was to get comfortable with higher vibrations. I had been use to living in a political climate that seemed to be a bit lower in frequency and happiness was becoming a fleeting weird feeling, as of lately and I was not okay with that!

It was clear to me that I had some work to do! I needed to take responsibility for the energy I was bringing to my mind/body/spirit, the world and in my writing. This concerned me so greatly that I made the intention to make it a daily practice of holding myself accountable for the quality of my vibrations. I was determined to get comfortable with being joyful and content. Just like any other skill, if I want to be good at it, I knew I must practice.

The first morning we woke up on the boat, the sun was rising slowly, and the birds were singing as the water was rocking us gently. We observed nature’s beauty in our surroundings. I gave thanks to the Higher Power for the blessing to have a time out of the Minnesota winter and this helped to encourage my peace of mind. It was proving to be easy to be joyful just sitting on a boat, watching the morning come alive with my coffee as Stacy and I sat in silence. I smiled at the day before me, feeling up to the challenge of staying happy all day.

We were doing our best to be silent, to encourage ourselves to go within and seek the guidance we were looking for. It did help to encourage me to stand in my own truth. I found it was very liberating to not have to negotiate my feelings or compromise my state of mind; just for the sake of conversation. Then again, I also came to realize I process my feelings and come to a deeper understanding of my deep thoughts, when I can communicate and look for a different point of view. Sometimes we don’t see, what is plain as day to your loved ones.

As I sat there for hours, just watching nature and jotting down my thoughts in my notebook, I found I was increasingly joyful. I sat there smiling to myself, just for the joy of if it and because I could. If I could choose to be joyful just because, then I should be able to choose joy at any moment. Right?! Of course, you and I both know that isn’t always true. Our emotions can be very powerful, but the thing is, we can choose those too. We can choose to acknowledge the thoughts they bring us and then decide if they are true or just our subconscious bringing up old fears or worries.

When I give myself time to dig deeper into my reactions, I begin to understand. Stacy would help me see that my anger, was most times, just my initial reaction to being displeased. I don’t want to get worked up over things I cannot control, like politics. I am truly a lover and not a fighter. Because of this I must find a way to make a difference in the world that allows me to be love; not war. I also find myself wondering if “I am able to be this person if I pursue a political path?”

I know it was always up to me to bring light and joy to the room with me, when I walk in. I get to choose to be happy and share joy. Yet I worried about what others might think and put pressure on myself, that wasn’t necessary, when I was a candidate. This is a thing lots of people do, I suppose, when facing unfamiliar experiences. We tend make things worse, than they truly are, just because we fear the worst instead of expecting the best.

This was the whole point of my ‘holding happiness’ exercise! I want to retrain my brain to expect the best. To look for the joy in my life, every day. I am going to remind myself that it “is” safe to be happy. I am worthy of being happy and I have every reason to be happy. So I would like to start enjoying it! I have been blessed to see my life, in a different light, after a joyous and crazy experience that kept me away from what truly matters to me. I can finally see the blessings in my extraordinary yet ordinary life and feel the joy it truly brings.

Life gives you lessons all the time if you are able to see them. I can see that I have a choice now and I choose joy. Every day I am doing my best to be joy, to be love and to be the best me. I don’t have to make it harder than it is. All I must do is make a choice to be grateful and joy will follow. I don’t have to be on a boat and in Florida to be joyous! I realize, all I must do, is consciously let joy in!

To do this, I have started a new practice. Every morning before I get up, I give thanks and I wait until I find the vibration of joy. I stay there until I feel it and then I hold it and send it out into the world before I can get out of bed. Affirmations that help me get into this vibration are “I am love. I am joy. I am light.” I also think of who I love and even use cuddling my dogs, to help me feel those good vibes!

I am not a morning person, but this practice has helped me embrace the start of the day a bit better. It is basically a short, purposely powerful meditation; that helps start my day with love and joy. Assisting me to be the best me I can be as soon as my feet hit the floor. It has been working wonders. I hope you try it!

I am so thankful for the blessing of our short Adventure Sister Retreat. Stacy and I always have such powerfully healing experiences when we get to spend extra time together. Thanks to our visits and going within, I can see where I needed the help. We are truly soul sisters helping each other grow. I am blessed to have such a dear friend that loves me just as I am.

I am a perfectly imperfect practitioner of joy!

Oh, joy!

Wishing you an abundance of blessings and joy!

Love to you all Adventurers!

With love,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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Resistance to Change…

Is it, self-sabotage?

Change is scary even when it is planned. The unknown of what lies ahead, gives our imagination an opportunity to show us just how creative you can really be. When I am scared but excited, I tend to imagine a beneficial outcome. But when I am just plain scared, the imagined outcome tends to be not so great. I do think that the more energy I put into imagining a ‘good’ result, the more likely it is that I get one.

Do you know why? I do. It is because my thoughts direct my actions. When I am fearful, I tend to make reserved choices and keep myself small, while at the same time being ready to fight at any given moment. I am on edge with myself and the people I encounter in my life when I am fearful. I have realized this is not the energy I wish to share with the world.

Instead I have chosen to look at life as an adventure in which my attitude, my imagination and my state of mind really do manifest the outcome I desire. When I am scared, yet excited about the direction I am headed, I can decide to make the best of the day and choose to bring good energy to my experiences. I can decide with my everyday choices where I direct my energy and what kind of energy I am emitting.

I can choose to be kind and inquisitive when I encounter people or situations unfamiliar to me. I can choose to believe in the good in the world around me. I can choose to know that the path that lies ahead of me is exactly where I am supposed to be. I can choose to do my best through my everyday actions to make the day enjoyable or not…

So, even though I tend to be somewhat resistant to change, I know that nothing is permanent in our lives. We can get comfortable and stuck in our ruts that do not challenge us, which is a nice rest from constantly striving or doing. Yet, when you hear the call of your heart, those ruts can be hard to get out of. It takes a great deal of effort, persistence and determination to get going. Which is a lot of work; gosh darn it! Why can’t change just be easy?

I believe change can be easy when I accept it and let it be the divine guidance it was meant to be. But, no… that’s just not how I roll somedays. Somedays I get upset about the changes forced upon my daily life that may require more effort and energy then I really want to give at that particular time or day. I can be as stubborn as my beloved bulldog Gus about change and I know it. Especially if I had planned to do something and life has different ideas for me.

Stacy and I had been talking about our common goals, that we are trying to accomplish together, yet we do them in our own ways. Publishing our book series is one of our goals, but we also share our life goals together. When I am thinking of making a change to my diet, or my lifestyle, I call my friend Stacy and we talk about it like sisters do. We process outcomes together, we offer support and personal experiences that we think will help each other.

Recently I had told her of a personal goal that I was not sure I would be able to accomplish but I know in my heart would be for the best. She said “Okay! Let’s do this together so we can support each!” this showing of sisterly support made me feel like “Yes. We can do this!” Because we will have each other to talk to, when the test of life and time come around like it always does.

The very next day after this conversation we saw a statement that stated “Resistance to change, is really self-sabotage”

When I think about it, I think it is true. Can you imagine if we all still acted like we did in high school while well into your forties?! I know a few people like this. People who like how it was, people who have learned all they needed to learn (or knew it all at age 18) so they feel they are just fine, thanks. Some folks just choose not to grow or change! We must learn to accept that, but we do not have to do the same.

Although, in my experience, the people who refuse to grow get very uncomfortable watching you grow. And that’s okay. I have decided I will not dim my light because it is shining in their eyes. I have experienced more of what life has to offer by taking risks and allowing myself to grow and change. I would not change any of the challenges of change that life has asked of me. It has made me into who I am today.

You know what? I really like who I am! I love that I have been changed by adventure, challenges, heartbreak, motherhood, friendship, and even my career path that all got me here today. My journey has softened my edges, given me patience and wisdom to know that I always have something to learn. I have learned that my resistance to change is futile and just makes the journey harder on me then it has to be! I have learned that if I want something new in my life I must do and accomplish new things and apply new effort.

So, I agree, resistance to change can be self-sabotage that keeps me from learning the lessons I need to grow. I don’t have to change all at once, I can usually choose to change in my own way, at my own pace. What makes change easier for me is putting my creative imagination to good use by expecting and acting in ways that will foster a favorable outcome. I can choose to make the most of it or go kicking and screaming the whole way. But, purposely putting out good vibes into the direction I am going, seems to make it a more comfortable journey.

Shine your light and vibe on, my adventurous friends! You CAN do this, and you GOT this! I believe in you.

Adventure awaits! Don’t be scared, be excited!

 

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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Why I count my blessings

I am grateful for the abundance of blessings in my life. I am thankful for the relationships I cultivated over time and the new ones just seeds of beginnings. When I think about these people I have surrounded myself with I realize how blessed I am to have them in my life. I am grateful for the choices I have made to get me where I am today. Life has not been thorn free roses, but I have been rewarded with millions of dollars’ worth of love throughout my life and I believe that helped me shape you I am.

The life I have lived has led me to gain experiences unique to me, every soul I met had a role in my existence. Even the dogs I have fostered, rescued, transported, or unfortunately failed… positive and negative have had a significant influence on the character I hold today. Same can be said about all my relationships some have grown while some have failed to thrive, I know it takes two to have relationships, so I take some responsibility in those friendships I have lost now I work to cherish the ones I have.

Being grateful seems to increase the abundance of blessings that come my way. Or maybe it just makes them clearer for me to see and accept as truth? When you go around complaining about everyone and everything naturally you look for more things to complain about. The same is true when counting your blessings. When you go about your days being grateful for everything and everyone in your life, the more you will see things to add to your list of abundant every day miracles.

As the world turns around us, we have duality of good/bad, light/dark, happy/sad etc… so that we have contrast to compare our experiences. We would not know the deep sense of loss without great love, we wouldn’t appreciate the sun if it never rained. This is how life cycles us through the phases we grow through as we age; all of our experiences shape our perceptions of what to be thankful for. We appreciate what we have when we learn from what we’ve lost. Sometimes we see the beauty in life because we’ve seen ugly parts too.

I am grateful for my family, friends and others that love me and support me.

I am grateful for love expressed in little ways that say ‘I love you’ with no words.

I am grateful for the support I feel that allows me to brave and adventurous.

I am grateful for the inclination inside that nurtures my endless quest for knowledge.

I am grateful to have the opportunity to express myself through the creativity I have been blessed with.

I am grateful for being able to love myself in a way that I feel it to be true in my mind, body and spirit.

I am grateful for all these things because I have had experiences that have been the opposite. Remember this today as you go through your daily routine, the things you complain about maybe affecting the things that you appreciate because that is where you are putting your energy. I propose we put a little more effort into appreciating what we love today! And the next days too. 😉

What are you thankful for? Do you write down or even acknowledge blessings every day? I try to be thankful for at least five things a day, which is easy, so then I start looking for more! Contemplate this; Does thinking of your complaints make you happy? Does counting your blessings make you mad?

What mood/energy would you rather carry around in your body, mind and spirit to share with the world today?

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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Positive Expectations *

I saw a message recently that resonated with me, because of the philosophy behind it. It said, “When you focus on problems you’ll have more problems, when you focus on possibilities you have more opportunities.” I love this for many reasons.

I find that it is more common for humans to find and look for all the ways things can go wrong in everyday situations.  Rarely is our first thought “Heck yes, I am going to rock this day, or this obstacle!” We tend to think of the worst-case consequence before we rationalize our thoughts to the last possible outcome that might work out in our favor, then we will end that thought by telling our selves “I doubt it.”

Why do you suppose we don’t automatically think of the best-case scenarios or outcome of a situation? Sure, we’ve all had experiences that didn’t work out for the best, but are they truly as often as we expect them? Usually not, but it seems we would rather be pleasantly surprised as opposed to let down, and this does sound rational sometimes.

However, what kind of energy are we bringing to that situation if we are expecting the worst? If we are holding the intention of being disappointed, why wouldn’t the Universe respond by answering them in the same way. Does it really make a difference in the outcome if we hope for the best? If we look for possibilities to make the situation work in our favor we often find opportunities or solutions that help.

Consistent complaining about a problem in no way helps the situation, when we can step back take a deep breath look for opportunities, they usually come in some form or another. It is because we are asking the Universe to help us with our intention of better outcome by searching for and expecting one that it offers us one. You are letting the God/The Universe know “I expect you to take care of this for my highest and greatest good, I deserve a positive resolution.”

Here is the thing, you can lift your problems up to God and ask them to be taken care of, but you must put yourself in the path of help. If you want assistance and ask for it, you got to put effort and intention towards resolving your boggle. Following the breadcrumbs, the signs, and signals that God sends you is a must for you to make positive progress your are seeking.

Nobody climbs Mount Everest by training with Netflix on the couch. You must put yourself in the path where you are most likely to find assistance. Do your part in progressing to a better solution, a better life or where ever you desire to be. If you are always complaining and accepting the crap situation, that is where you will stay, in your victimhood, weighed down with your heavy backpack of problems that you just accept are yours to carry through life.

This isn’t always the case, taking responsibility for your situation, gives your clarity. I am not saying you can’t be bummed, pissed, sad or any other emotion that might flood you, this is normal. What is not normal is holding onto those negative attitudes because that is what keeps you stuck. When you take responsibility to ‘fix it’ or solve your boggles you take back your power and energetically refuse to be a victim to outside forces.

Taking back your power allows you to focus on possibilities to open doors of opportunities. I have found this to be true in my life in many ways and many situations. It’s been only recently that I have been using this advice myself, and I find that doors of opportunity are opening, my path becomes clearer, and there is no mistaking where I am headed in the future.

It seems to me, by not complaining (okay complain a little but then get over it and move forward immediately!) I can reroute my brain and energy to finding solutions and clearing my thoughts enough to see that maybe God was just clearing the clutter out of my life, so I am able to see where my next steps are supposed to be directed. I just had to get out of my head and out of my own way!

Now that I have finally learned to get out of my own way I see that I am smack dab in the middle of an abundant forest of opportunities. I see it’s up to me to follow the breadcrumbs left for me by the higher power for my highest and greatest good. I know that God wants me to succeed in all I do, when I let the signs of the Universe help me along and see the ‘difficult’ situations as guide posts too, I can hurdle them, and want success for myself as well.

“When you focus on problems you’ll have more problems, when you focus on possibilities you have more opportunities.”

What opportunities are you seizing today?! I would love to hear about them!

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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7 Ways to practice trusting your Intuition

I talk a lot about raising your vibration, keeping your thoughts and energy positive, while walking through daily life. I would also like to talk about how trusting your intuition and gut feelings can help you to live a fulfilling authentic life. I have found through trial and error when I do not trust my intuition, when choose not answer the call to do what I know I should. I suffer the consequences of not listening to my intuition in emotional and physical ways.

I have been hearing the tug at my soul to start writing since 2010 or if I am honest much earlier even since youth. I started by journaling with no purpose except to just write and release my feelings. I found it very therapeutic, but I could still hear my soul saying keep at it for several years, I heard this call and ignored it of course because I had other things to do. I was building a business and making cleaning my house, a priority before writing.

I would do absolutely anything to avoid writing, even doing thing for others they could do for themselves instead. When all I kept thinking about it how bad I wanted to be an author. For years I would stuff this ‘feeling’ right back down to where it came from “Who am I to dare to dream? What makes you qualified to write about anything? What do you have to say that is so important?” I was full of doubt. The more I believed the doubt the more I felt unease move in to my soul.

I was beginning to feel anxiety about many things, I wasn’t taking care of my own needs and desires while putting others before myself whenever possible. By ignoring my feelings, anxiety and depression took its toll on me physically, I gained weight,  I was unhealthy, and my mental state was fragile and highly irritable. I was not living my best life or being the best me I could be, and I felt acutely it in my whole being. These were my icky ‘consequences’ that lead me to discovered the necessity of trusting my intuition. I was so miserable in life I HAD to change it. I discovered the only way to make change is to change yourself because as much as we like to think we can… we cannot change others.

I began by learning all about energy in my body, where I hold it, how it feels and how to control it. This information came to me first in the form of learning Reiki healing. It was by learning about the energy centers in the body (Chakras) that I was able to comprehend the mind, body spirit connection and how it greatly affects your life. At the time I was just learning to be selfish, I wanted and needed to feel better in the meat suit I was wearing and not feeling comfortable in. After years of practice I find it has helped me so greatly that it is my passion to share all I’ve learned so you can feel better too. Here are some of the ways you can incorporate practice of listening to your intuition in your daily life.

  • Try Reiki, Healing hands and other types of energy work. This will help you be in touch with your body, it helps your mind be back in your being, being calm during these healings, helps to hear the whisper of your soul. Learning about the non-physical energy or life force in my body was life changing for me. I started to practice Reiki healing on others and soon discovered helping others helped me too. Giving seems to be more fulfilling to me then taking, but there are times I need healing too. As do you; honor that. You don’t have to learn Reiki, but you can experience energy healing in another form that calls to you.

 

  • Own your feelings, do not let them own you. When someone makes you mad or sad, acknowledge it and ask yourself what exactly made you so upset. Are you feeling disrespected, unappreciated, annoyed, over-extended, used? Your emotions are there for a reason not to be used as a weapon of self-inflicted psychological torture. They should be used as a guide to lean towards what and who makes you feel better. Check in with your relationships, and ask your soul, is this fulfilling for me? Is this where I belong. You will know the answer, this is your intuition.

 

  • Go where you are celebrated not just tolerated. This is god’s way of letting you know where you should be and who you should be spending your time with. Just because you’ve always had the same crowd you hang out with doesn’t mean it’s the one you have to spend the rest of your life trying to ‘fit into’. If these ‘friends’ don’t value your thoughts, feeling or opinions, move on. You will find new friends who love you just as you are, and you will thank yourself for being brave enough to do so. This doesn’t mean you have to cut people out of your life, you just give them the same amount of effort and attention they give you.

 

  • Value your own uniqueness and find others who do the same. How do you feel when you are around someone? Do you feel free to talk about anything and be yourself? Or do you feel like your opinion and feelings don’t not matter? Do you even get a say? These are signs from the Universe on who you should be surrounding yourself with. Move around in this giant world and find other people who resonate with you, find your tribe. Finding others who celebrate your differences instead of trying to bully them out of you is imperative to your soul’s growth. Do yourself a solid and spend time alone as opposed to giving your valuable time and energy to others who do not value who you are and what you have to offer.

 

  • Check in with your physical body. When you are in an uncomfortable situation your body talks to you too, not just your mind. Your pulse rises, you may perspire, your fist clench or your jaw tightens. These are human reactions to stress we all feel, when you are with someone or in a situation that isn’t right for you, your body knows even if you ignore it. Its up to you to check in and think why do I have a headache? Why am I exhausted every time I talk to this person? Why do I feel nauseous all the sudden? This is your body talking to you. Listen up, these are signs and signals from your intuition, your intuition was given to you by the higher power that lives inside of you. It wouldn’t be there if it wasn’t supposed to be used. Mind/BODY/Spirit… its ALL connected for a reason.

 

  • Try thought control over meditation. Plenty of people I know do not like to or just don’t find the peace in meditation that others can find. What I propose is instead, catch yourself slinging bullshit negative stories around in your head, compulsively thinking the worse of others or situations. I ask you to acknowledge it and then tell yourself ‘Stop it.” Every single time you feel upset, anxious or uneasy. Tell yourself “Just stop it.” Ask yourself “Is there anything I can do about this right now?” If there is then do it, stop spinning your mind and polishing rocks of crazy. Ask “Are my thoughts helping the situation or are they blowing it up into obnoxious unnecessary scenarios?” Taking responsibility and control of your own thoughts helps more then meditation in most of real life situations. I totally get that, so this is my alternative suggestion to meditation. Think about puppies or vacation, do something with your hands instead.

 

  • Trust and run towards what you love. It is all about the love baby! We are not meant to be miserable humans making more misery for others. We love what we love for a reason, life is much more enjoyable when we can spend time doing what makes our heart sing and soul smile. Spending our precious time with people who make us feel accepted, seen and loved for who we are, warts and all is what love means. From spending time with babies or grandbabies, fishing to skydiving, whatever that makes your heart fill with happy… do that as much of it as possible. Start giving your time, priority and importance to what does fulfill you in some way. We really are here for only a short while, you’ve tv and phone will not miss you or love you. Spend your hours pursuing more of what you love, trust that the things that pull at your soul, is your intuitive path to happiness.

 

Now that I have learned to take responsibility for my thoughts, my action, my energy. I have decided to take the leap of faith in myself and trust that running toward what I love to do. I find a great deal more peace and joy in my life when I make sure I get time to do what makes me happy, like adventuring and writing about it to help others. I have decided to make it a priority. And you know what? I really have started to look forward to each day, being able to wake up and know I am spending time moving forward with purpose. By listening to my souls call to write, write, write! I have acknowledged and honored myself in a way nobody else or anything else could fulfill, it’s always been up to me.

Trusting your intuition, is just owning your own power. Don’t be afraid of your own power, it was given to you on purpose by God/The Universe for just this reason. Your intuition relies on your feelings, so you feel where you are supposed to be and who you are supposed to be with. You can trust yourself to use your energy only for good. After all isn’t that what we all want in our lives? You are a good soul, it is safe to trust yourself.