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When you know better,

April 28, 2018March 24, 2026 Emy Minzel

It took time to learned to give people the benefit of the doubt and see the good in others as often as possible. Even the ones that don’t seem so ‘good’ I remind myself we do not know what others are dealing with in their lives, be kind.

I choose to think that people who challenge us often just need more love and patience. Then there are days when life sends a character to cross your path that makes you think maybe you were wrong. Are all people truly good at heart? Are they really doing the best that they can in the time and space that they are given?

I admit being the one doing what may have hurt others. I have. I am human. I am not proud of those moments and choose to learn from those mistakes and the feelings of disappointment in myself. When this happens, I vow to do better next time. I think most people do the same.

Like Maya Angelou say’s “When you know better, you do better.”

I believe this with my whole heart. What baffles me are people to continue to hurt people after they know better or have been hurt themselves. People of authority abusing their power to get what they want knowing full well that it is not benefitting the greater good choose to do it anyway. They choose not to learn lessons offered to them.

The people who choose to point fingers instead of take responsibility are not people I respect or look up to. It is a shame that we often find people like this in positions of authority who often abuse that power. This is the whole premise behind the #MeToo movement and behind all racism in our County. Abuse of power ticks me off.

Since I was a young girl, I have learned to believe that your age, career or title do not give you any special privileges to treat people like crap. I just don’t buy it. I treat the President of a Bank the same way I treat the kid who helps me bag my groceries.

If you are jerk well, I could mirror that right back.. but now I just choose to walk away from conflict. I don’t let my emotions get to me like they used to. I can now stand strong and comfortable in my integrity.

I have come to terms with my ‘shadow side’ the side that won’t let people treat me with disrespect. For this knowledge of learning self-protection came from necessity. The side that helps me set healthy boundaries in my relationships and in life.

These feelings of anger or discomfort have a purpose in our lives and should not be shoved down. We mustn’t be led by these negative emotions but allow them to speak to us and help us discern the truth of our situation.

Being able to listen to our instinctual emotional reflexes to others and situations is a blessing. We are giving these feelings as gifts to help us navigate life. Just because we feel anger, rage or disappointment does not mean our lives are consumed by these emotions. We have the ability to move through our emotions follow our hearts to a brighter tomorrow.

How we choose to navigate our gifts is up to us. When you know better, you do better. I believe this is true for most people. I choose to embrace the light and the dark side of our human duality; we were given these gifts for a reason. How you choose to use them is up to you, and the legacy you wish to leave.

Wishing you an abundance of blessings,

Emy Minzel ~

What do you think you deserve?

April 25, 2018March 24, 2026 Emy Minzel

Do you think that you deserve a happy, and true lasting love you can feel deep in your soul? Do you think you deserve a career that is rewarding and makes you feel good about what you do? Do you think that you deserve a life full of family and friends that cherish, love and respect you? Do you feel comfortable in uniqueness you have to offer the world?

I think I do deserve these things, I think you do too! I know that when I decided to get serious about what and who I allow myself to spend time and energy on that is when my life seemed to bloom. When I was much younger I would keep myself small since being authentically me, would make others uncomfortable. I was not like them. I see now how we are all different on purpose.

I have never fit in well, not in high school and not in the crowd I used to run with. Although I masked it well. I am different for a reason, I was not supposed to conform. I was supposed to be uncomfortable enough to move on. I was being guided and called to do better and be better by this knowing that I didn’t belong.

It wasn’t fun or comfortable to try to fit myself into a crowd that didn’t get me. So, I decided to up my game, find people who have higher aspirations for life and to be inspired by. I chose to spend my time with people who love my uniqueness, my ambitions and celebrate them instead of picking on me for dreaming big.

There are friends or family that freely express their concern for my bold actions. They show me their fears laying them on my lap. As if I should also be scared or fearful of the same things they are. Some people certainly do not want you to succeed beyond what they think you should or could. Because they don’t think they deserve it for themselves so why should you?

I have learned to be weary of those people and see it in myself when I share my fears. It is masked as concern, but it is fear. Because I choose to see the good in people my rose color glasses would eventually reveal truth. Some of these people who I thought were close friends and even family masked behind fake support. Instead planting seeds of doubt, or backhanded compliments. I still had many years to invest in those relationships before I realized it was a lesson to learn. Weeding out faux friends and toxic family was a lesson I had to learn the hard way.

What do you do when the people who are closest to you are the ones that don’t like you taking chances or being raw and authentically you? What do you do when other people’s insecurities are pushed on you clearly dulling your shine? My answer is simple.

Don’t allow it.

Don’t give up!

Shine baby shine!

Know that you deserve to chase your dreams, you deserve to live your life in the way you want! You deserve to life fully and as hard as you wish to push yourself! Do not let the fears of others keep you from living your dreams even if they scare you and them.

Knowing that you will be okay if you fall is also a game changer. Being brave enough to try while knowing you just might biff it, is heroic in my mind! I have discovered how to march solo to the beat of my own drum because nobody else could carry the frequency of my tune.

I don’t need to carry other’s fears or expectations. I have learned to minimize the comments from the peanut gallery in the bleachers, the one’s not in the game.

When other’s opinions of how I should live are quieted; I can hear my heart speak. Asking me if life is good enough to stay the same? My heart leads me to the places and people that help me grow. It leads me to move careers, it led me to leave unfulfilling relationships for better ones. My heart leads me to live my life purpose of helping others.

My heart whispers to stay calm when I am being brave and bold.

I trust myself to know intuitively where to go next, I trust my heart to keep me safe and happy. Even in the uncomfortableness of blooming out of the tight and safe bud I was keeping myself in. I know that I deserve to feel fulfilled in all areas of my life, including relationships, career and love.

I also know that to open your heart to others, being vulnerable enough to show the real you, is super scary. We all feel that way sometimes. But ask if it’s worth it to keep yourself small or build walls around your heart just in case you may get hurt? I don’t think so. Disappointment, pain and heartbreak are part of life that we all share. Why squash your dreams to keep others comfortable? Can yourself so you don’t outgrow who they project on to you who they think you are or want you to be? hogwash. Those folks are not your people.

To me it is better to be the best version of you, you can possibly be. Is it really that scary to open you heart and love so big that the moon might feel it? Yes. because of fear that the feeling won’t returned. But, What if it is?

Fear asks. What if, you try to reach your goals and you fail?

I say; So what?! It’s how we learn. It’s how we grow into authenticity.

We are all unique for a reason, find the people and situations that celebrate and appreciate the authenticity you bring to the table, or you will never find contentment. If it was meant to be it will be.

Find the courage to accept yourself just the way you are, be bold in chasing your dreams. Find the will to overcome your fears and the fears of others. Be valiant enough to ask others to accept you just as you are. Be courageous enough to release those who can’t support you without trying to control you with their fears you may outgrow them.

Be brave in the way you love, have courage to live your life in the way you want to be remembered. Be fearless in creating the story of your life. When you believe fully in yourself, your dreams and goals. It gives you the courage and strength to go it alone if you have too because you refuse to accept anything less then you deserve.

P.S. Give yourself permission to feel joy, excitement and happiness! You deserve it.
Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~

@emyforhouse15A

Earth Day Everyday!

April 23, 2018March 24, 2026 Emy Minzel

I spent Earth Day rescuing a big pine tree in the back yard from my dog Hank’s effort to over fertilize it this winter. In short, I celebrated this beautiful sunny Earth Day by raking leaves and cleaning up dog poo. Not glamorous but hey, show me who’s life is glamour’s all the time, and I will gladly call BS.

We all have to deal with some crap once in a while, that’s just life. My dogs Gus and Hank are part of my family, they both sit squarely inside my heart. The fact that I must do the icky stuff like pick up after them is part my love and dedication to them. I want them to feel like they have a clean area to roam and do their business because it is healthier for them.

Maintaining and taking care of something you love, should not be dreaded or disgusting. It’s no different then changing a diaper. People who don’t like to get their hands dirty doing the hard stuff are an enigma to me. I find the return in a hard job well done very rewarding. I love to take care of my family and my animals in the same way I would want to be cared for. I intend to do my best caring for the Earth in the same way.

I like that I find peace in nature whether picking up poo or out adventuring into the wilderness foraging for firewood. I just like to be outdoors. I prefer warm sunshiny days that lift my mood and boost my energy to get things done. If I get to sit by water or climb in a canoe… forgetaboutit!!! That is where I feel closest to Spirit, on the water immersed in Mother Nature’s embrace, feels like Heaven to me.

Spring has finally sprung in Central Minnesota and I could not be any happier! There maybe still snow on the ground but we still have plenty of nature to enjoy. The mosquitoes are not quite out yet, the sandhill cranes are laughing in the pond by the garden. Sounds like they are enjoying a party every evening as the sun sets. I kind of want to join them in the festivities!

Spending time outside, tending to nature and the ones I love, is one of life’s simple enjoyments. The kind that money can’t buy, the kind that only have value to your soul. Being outside in nature nurtures us in a way we can’t describe but also can’t get enough of.

My daughter and I took our dogs on a walk this evening, now that the snow has melted we also see all the garbage and debris in the ditches and alongside the road. We decided to bring a trash bag and gloves with us next walk. Because caring for something you love even the icky stuff that’s not your fault; is the right thing to do.

Let’s treat the Earth as we would like to be treated. Let’s do our best to keep the water clean, our trash contained and recycled. It is part of our maintenance fees for living here on Earth. The sun is out and the snow is finally leaving. Life is good here at the Minzel home front, even when there is plenty of crap to do, life is good!

I like to celebrate Earth Day every day because Mother Earth needs us to! How do you show you care for the Earth?

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ I am love.

Delegating

April 21, 2018March 24, 2026 Emy Minzel

I am the kind of girl who likes to do things myself. They say if you want something done right (or the way you like) you must do it yourself. I have had that same train for thought for many years. Often letting it rule most of my time and day.

I wouldn’t allow others to clean because it was not done to my high standards so, I did it myself. I like things to look just so, in the yard, in the house, in my business and so on. I don’t allow others to help me with much of anything really.

Life has taken a drastic change of pace from what I have been used to for the last several years. I had the time and energy to do everything I wanted done myself. Out of necessity, impatience, or shear stubbornness, I have always been self-sufficient.

Until just a few weeks ago when I need to work from the time I wake up answering emails, until bedtime, studying issues for the campaign, working, and writing has left me no time to clean, shop, cook, or even walk the dogs. All the things still need to get done, I just do not have the time.

This is where the higher power teaches me how to ask for help, and how to delegate. These are not things that come easy or naturally for me. I will ask my husband will pick up something from the store, but I hardly ever ask him to clean the bathroom. The time has come for me to have to ask.

Does it really matter if he doesn’t clean as I would? Does it really matter if the home decorations aren’t dusted or look like they are in the exact right place? Does it matter if I have company come over and there is dog hair on the floor? Probably not. Does it matter if dinner wasn’t cooked the way I would have done it? It doesn’t, in fact it tastes better when I don’t have to cook it!

When it comes to campaign work I find it difficult to delegate even the simplest things like stuffing envelopes. I feel this way because it is my campaign and feel like I should be helping after all! I do like to help. That’s also part of the conundrum I face. I like to be the helper not the helped for some reason…

Going from someone who was able to do it all by myself; to a busy self-employed business owner, writer and Candidate that has more to do then I can get done in a day, is quite a riddle for me. I must learn to let go of how I think things should look and just be grateful that I have help at all.

Delegating is a skill I am working on and it eases my mind is knowing that most people also like to help too. Learning to let go of how I think things should be will help me grow as a person. It also allows others to step up who haven’t had the chance because I never let them. I am also learning it helps to be specific when asking.

Asking for help allows others to support me, when we assist others we feel good. At least I do anyways, and I am going to assume most people feel the same when they feel useful. I believe this lesson is was gentle reminder from up above saying. “Hey you down there, it is okay to ask for help!”

You don’t have to do it all yourself, delegating is entrusting people to help you. This facilitates others feeling good about themselves for being of assistance. It is kind of nice when I put it like that isn’t it?

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~