Do you think that you deserve a happy, and true lasting love you can feel deep in your soul? Do you think you deserve a career that is rewarding and makes you feel good about what you do? Do you think that you deserve a life full of family and friends that cherish, love and respect you? Do you feel comfortable in uniqueness you have to offer the world?
I think I do deserve these things, I think you do too! I know that when I decided to get serious about what and who I allow myself to spend time and energy on that is when my life seemed to bloom. When I was much younger I would keep myself small since being authentically me, would make others uncomfortable. I was not like them. I see now how we are all different on purpose.
I have never fit in well, not in high school and not in the crowd I used to run with. Although I masked it well. I am different for a reason, I was not supposed to conform. I was supposed to be uncomfortable enough to move on. I was being guided and called to do better and be better by this knowing that I didn’t belong.
It wasn’t fun or comfortable to try to fit myself into a crowd that didn’t get me. Now I found people who celebrate me, and that feels much better. I decided to up my game, find people who have higher aspirations for life to be around, to be inspired by. I chose to spend my time with people who love my uniqueness, my ambitions and celebrate them instead of picking on me for dreaming big.
There are well-intentioned friends or family that freely express their concern for my bold actions. They show me their fears laying them on my lap, as if I should also be scared or fearful of the same things they are. Some people certainly do not want you to succeed beyond what they think you should or could. Because they don’t think they deserve it for themselves so why should you? I have learned to be weary of those people and see it in myself when I share my fears. It is masked as concern, but it is fear.
What do you do when the people who are closest to you are the ones that don’t like you taking chances or being raw and authentically you? What do you do when other people’s insecurities are pushed on you clearly dulling your shine? My answer is simple.
Don’t allow it.
Don’t give up!
Shine baby shine!
Know that you deserve to chase your dreams, you deserve to live your life in the way you want! You deserve to life fully and as hard as you wish to push yourself! Do not let the fears of others keep you from living your dreams even if they scare you and them.
Knowing that you will be okay if you fall is also a game changer. Being brave enough to try while knowing you just might biff it, is heroic in my mind! I have discovered how to march solo to the beat of my own drum.
I don’t need to carry other’s fears or expectations. I have learned to minimize the comments from the peanut gallery in the bleachers, the one’s not in the game.
When other’s opinions of how I should live are quieted; I can hear my heart speak. Asking me if life is good enough to stay the same? My heart leads me to the places and people that help me grow. It leads me to move careers, it led me to leave unfulfilling relationships for better ones. My heart leads me to live my life purpose of helping others.
My heart whispers to stay calm when I am being brave and bold.
I trust myself to know intuitively where to go next, I trust my heart to keep me safe and happy. Even in the uncomfortableness of blooming out of the tight and safe bud I was keeping myself in. I know that I deserve to feel fulfilled in all areas of my life, including relationships, career and love.
I also know that to open your heart to others, being vulnerable enough to show the real you, is super scary. We all feel that way sometimes, but is it worth it to keep yourself small or build walls around your heart just incase you may get hurt?
Or is it better to be the best version of you, you can possibly be? Is it really that scary to open you heart and love so big that the moon might feel it? What if that feeling isn’t returned? What if you try to reach your goals and you fail?
I say; So what?!
We are all unique for a reason, find the people and situations that celebrate and appreciate the authenticity you bring to the table or you will never find contentment. If it was meant to be it will be.
Find the courage to accept yourself just the way you are, be bold in chasing your dreams. Find the will to overcome your fears and the fears of others. Be valiant enough to ask others to accept you just as you are.
Be brave in the way you love, have courage to live your life in the way you want to be remembered. Be fearless in creating the story of your life. Don’t accept anything less then you deserve.
P.S. Give yourself permission to feel joy, excitement and happiness! You deserve it.
Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,
Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister
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