Finding Joy

Adventure Sister Stacy and I have a book we wrote on called Lessons Through Joy. We tell stories about how we were tired of learning lessons the hard way and decided it was time we started learning lessons through joy. It was an intentional manifestation of how we were willing to ‘learn our lessons’. Believe it or not, we did learn many lessons through joy after we sent that request up to the heavens in a fire ceremony in the Boundary Waters Canoe Area.

I believe that because we were expecting God/Spirit to answer our request; it happened. We had also made steps to purposely look for the blessings in each of our situations, deciding to focus on the good rather than what we perceived as bad. Stacy and I often consult each other when life gets rocky. We depend on each other to be there when we need to talk or vent our frustrations. I depend on her to remind me of the good, when I have had a bad day.

Bad days happen to us all, often when it rains it pours and somedays it can feel overwhelming. I am human, I have bad days. Lately its been storming, shaking things up in my calm life. I feel the need to step back and look at the big picture. There are things demanding my attention keeping busy and distracted from what was and is truly important to me in my life.

I have big dreams goals and aspirations folks! Sitting on my tush isn’t going to get me there and I know I’m busting my butt for a good reason. I am dedicated my goals. This is not to say that it is always fun or exciting. Some day’s all these goals and dreams take a lot of hours, leaving no time to relax or enjoy nature I love so much. Some day’s make me think can I really have it all? Can I really write books, run for State Office, run a business, enjoy the great outdoors, and have a happy family all at the same time????

Yet, I know deep in my soul, I cannot and will not quit. That’s not who I am. That’s not what I want. What I have decided to do instead is to ask the Universe again, to start helping me learn my Lessons Through Joy. I know it is possible because it’s happened before. I am going to choose to look for the blessings in my situation. I am choosing to be thankful for all the opportunities I am offered.

I believe that Spirit would not give me these opportunities and desire to make a difference in the world if I was not able to achieve them. I believe if by chance I don’t succeed, I will still be just fine.  I also believe the way I choose to look at things is how I choose to experience life. If I think today is crap, then in fact I will have a craptastic day.

If I wake up and decide I am ready to seize the day, I usually do! I’ll admit once in a while I wake up on the wrong side of the bed. My attitude sucks and I need to adjust it, or my day will reflect my energy. Today was one of those days. I spent all day in a miserable mood, sharing my energy with my family and receiving what I had given.

I complained to Stacy and as she usually does, she helped me put things into perspective. She’s not in the thick of things here at my house, she can see the forest and that I am just a tree in it. Stacy reminds me to step back, relax and to see the blessings in the situation. So instead of complaining about to do’s and such, I am going to express my gratitude for all I am blessed with today.

I am thankful for the generous people who have offered and delivered exceptional help to the Emy for House Campaign. These people have been a blessing since the moment I met them. I will probably never be able to repay my gratitude for their time and energy donated to help me win. These people help me believe there is an abundance of good in the world.

I am thankful for my husband who supports all my big dreams, aspirations and goals even when they are a lot of work for him and take time away from our family. He is devoted and takes care of me with stability, strength and love. I am blessed beyond words to be the one he loves this much.

I am thankful for my daughter who I think of as a great friend, she gets me out of the house, takes me and the dogs on walks because she knows just when we need them. My daughter is an amazing, and kind young woman who I am incredibly proud of. I am thankful for that.

My mother and I have not been able to see each other much but I try to be in touch with her more often then we used to. I love her lots and I know she loves me. I am very blessed to have my mom, she shaped the strong willed, big hearted woman I am today, I am thankful for this too.

I have tremendous friends and supportive family. Even though they may not understand my desire to do all I do, they love me and support me anyway.

I am thankful to have a roof over my head, enough to eat and a life that keeps me feeling alive. To feel strongly and feel big feelings is human and what makes me chase my goals. When it feels like a bigger job then I anticipated, its up to me to trust that I will not be delivered anything I cannot handle. It’s up to me to find my Lessons Through Joy every day.

Wow, I feel better after I see my blessings on paper.

I wonder how many times I have counted them out while complaining about trivial situations? I hope not too many. I know many of you understand that life can feel heavy, and somedays it pushes more than you think you can take. I believe all of us feel that way at one time or another. What is important is to step back, count your blessings, be sure to acknowledge there is always, always, always, something to be thankful for.

 

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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Just Dance!

It seems to me, somehow life snuck up on me and I got older, my gray hair is showing, the laugh lines around my eyes seem to stretch out further every year. My body acts differently then I am used to, but it still works fine and for that I am thankful. I love the person who I have grown into, my views on growing older have changed since you know, now I am old. The best part of growing older is learning who you really are inside and being confident to stand up for yourself and your beliefs. This may be just my opinion, but I really am enjoying the journey into midlife. I am in my early forties and I am finally able to really embrace the uniqueness that makes me; me.

I had a random thought that moved me to write about a topic that I haven’t participated in since the last wedding I attended. Dancing! I have found one thing I do not enjoy about growing older is the lack of dancing. I love, love, love to dance and now that I am too old to go clubbing on the weekends and attending concerts is difficult because ticket prices have gone astronomically crazy since ‘back in my day’. (Insert old fart saying here) So… it got me wondering, how do I keep the music alive?

I love to jam out, let my soul get all tangled up in the music so it moves me until my hair is wet with sweat, I am out of breath and need to rest before I can start dancing some more. Now the only time I work up a sweat is when its summer, I am in the garden or I am on the treadmill. That’s not okay with me. I need to figure out how to find the right atmosphere for shaking my tush because that’s something I still like to do!

There are plenty of people much older then I, who enjoy or even compete in swing dance or any kind of dance they prefer. Why is it that I can’t seem to find the right venue, time or people to want to dance with? I used to run with a fun rowdy crowd that loved to find local bands or concerts where we could go dance and have tons of fun. This no longer happens because they are older too, kids, jobs, time, good excuses but still excuses not to dance!

Dancing is not a priority in most peoples lives, there are plenty of things that top the list for good reason. I am finding after years of not dancing until there is a wedding it seems there’s no longer opportunities to dance in my adulthood, and this has bummed me out. Dancing is good for your body mind and spirit connection! It is scientifically proven that our bodies and brains react to the music in positive ways and we all know we need more exercise. I find it almost impossible to be cranky when I am dancing don’t you? This may be why I crave it so much???

I think it makes sense to dance MORE when we age so we can add more joy, music, exercise and entertainment to our lives, because this is when we need it the most! Growing older is not a bad thing, we just tend to be more in our heads then our bodies. Just thought I’d let you in on that secret. We don’t have to give up everything we enjoyed because now we are adults. So, don’t believe the hype if that’s what you’ve heard. It’s more than okay to still shake ya rump even if your over forty.

At times when I find I don’t have to have anyone to dance with my husband doesn’t dance, and my girlfriends are busy. I just remind myself “You can’t make others do something they don’t want to do!” that doesn’t stop me from wanting to dance! I choose to take full responsibility to fulfill this need in myself. I choose to take the opportunities of alone time that I am blessed with to turn up the Bose radio and get down in the living room/kitchen at any random time, or even while I am tidying around the house. Because why not?!

Dancing relieves stress, the music pumps up your chakras and basically flips on your happy switch. Its hard to misunderstand, bicker or argue with others when you are dancing,  because dancing unites us and brings all walks of life together. I believe there is power in letting loose and dancing so I am bucking the norm’s of aging letting my freak flag fly and choosing to shake my badonkadonk and rock out right here in the kitchen.

I chose to dance any chance I can get. In fact, There’s a dance party for one in my house today! I hope you find time to let your hair down in the way that brings you joy!

OOOhhhh HOOoooo shut up and dance with me!

Here is a link to a song that never fails to get me moving, I hope it helps you too!

https://youtu.be/6JCLY0Rlx6Q

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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Life in Limbo

Do you ever have times in life when some of your plates are up in the air and all you are doing is waiting for days or weeks, even months for them to come down, so you can rearrange them in the organized chaos you know and love? In between the juggling there can be times in life when some of your plates may go rouge and God seems to switch them out on you, taking some away or giving you more. I am talking about when life hands you opportunities or plot twists and there you sit waiting in suspense in the gray area of uncertainty until it becomes clear.

You may feel strongly about taking a new job but uneasy about it because its completely different then what you’ve done before. Maybe the benefits and hours are amazing, but you must move your whole family to a new town and that’s a big deal. Maybe you’ve decided to have children, and now every month that comes and goes has new meaning, nothing happens until it happens and then you know! The in between of life can be uncomfortable, exciting, nerve racking even thrilling, it’s like the suspense part of a good movie when you just don’t know what is going to happen next!

I feel that way now, I have many interests that peek my fancy, and I put energy into the things I feel passionate about. Lately I have embarked on a literary journey with my Adventure Sister Stacy, we just submitted three book proposals to our editor for a series we have been working on for several years. Even though we have come far in this undertaking, we still have a way to go before we get published. The waiting in the in between of uncertainty is exciting and nerve racking all at the same time. There’s a lot of “what if’s” running around in my head right now!

I tend to have an extreme range of scenarios when it comes to my what if’s some of them great some of them not. I try to remind myself to release the uncertainty to God and I trust that whatever happens is for my highest and greatest good. It sounds so easy to trust my path, but doubt is a slippery sucker that likes to creep in through cracks of my hope. Yet I still choose to hold on to faith I am expecting the best and know that I will be okay no matter what happens.

I felt moved to get involved in environmental activism, by getting more involved in politics. So, I took a small step of caucusing a couple weeks ago to submit a resolution to lawmakers asking them to save the Boundary Waters Canoe Area in Minnesota from impending toxic mining. This urge led me to people who saw my passion for politics and encouraged me to do more. They urged me to do something I never thought I would consider which is to run for a District House of Representative seat in MN to represent my community. This is not a done deal, or solid decision yet, I am doing my research, finding out more and putting myself in the pool of my political community to find out if I would be able to get the help and build the team I would need to run.

I am following the signs set before me like breadcrumbs sent from God, I trust my intuition takes me to places I feel my soul being pulled. The last few months life has been handing me opportunity after opportunity to learn, grow, help myself and others. I am feeling extremely blessed just to have the chance to participate in either of these big things. Being a published author or running to be a State Legislator representing my community and environment would be fabulous experiences.

I feel I already have a beautiful life, the waiting shouldn’t be hard, but somedays it gives me anxiety.  I choose to see these plates up in the air as positive anyway they come down. They’ve given me experiences I would not have if I didn’t follow my intuition. I am blessed to have had these encounters at all, I am able to trust God either way the juggling act commences, I know he would not give me more than I can handle or lead me this far for no reason. My journey is just that, a journey, I am meant to embrace the in betweenness to see this time as the waves of life’s limbo moving me forward. It is quite thrilling ride!

I am so thankful for you, the readers sharing this journey with me, I wish you the best while traveling and trusting in your path.

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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Positive Expectations *

I saw a message recently that resonated with me, because of the philosophy behind it. It said, “When you focus on problems you’ll have more problems, when you focus on possibilities you have more opportunities.” I love this for many reasons.

I find that it is more common for humans to find and look for all the ways things can go wrong in everyday situations.  Rarely is our first thought “Heck yes, I am going to rock this day, or this obstacle!” We tend to think of the worst-case consequence before we rationalize our thoughts to the last possible outcome that might work out in our favor, then we will end that thought by telling our selves “I doubt it.”

Why do you suppose we don’t automatically think of the best-case scenarios or outcome of a situation? Sure, we’ve all had experiences that didn’t work out for the best, but are they truly as often as we expect them? Usually not, but it seems we would rather be pleasantly surprised as opposed to let down, and this does sound rational sometimes.

However, what kind of energy are we bringing to that situation if we are expecting the worst? If we are holding the intention of being disappointed, why wouldn’t the Universe respond by answering them in the same way. Does it really make a difference in the outcome if we hope for the best? If we look for possibilities to make the situation work in our favor we often find opportunities or solutions that help.

Consistent complaining about a problem in no way helps the situation, when we can step back take a deep breath look for opportunities, they usually come in some form or another. It is because we are asking the Universe to help us with our intention of better outcome by searching for and expecting one that it offers us one. You are letting the God/The Universe know “I expect you to take care of this for my highest and greatest good, I deserve a positive resolution.”

Here is the thing, you can lift your problems up to God and ask them to be taken care of, but you must put yourself in the path of help. If you want assistance and ask for it, you got to put effort and intention towards resolving your boggle. Following the breadcrumbs, the signs, and signals that God sends you is a must for you to make positive progress your are seeking.

Nobody climbs Mount Everest by training with Netflix on the couch. You must put yourself in the path where you are most likely to find assistance. Do your part in progressing to a better solution, a better life or where ever you desire to be. If you are always complaining and accepting the crap situation, that is where you will stay, in your victimhood, weighed down with your heavy backpack of problems that you just accept are yours to carry through life.

This isn’t always the case, taking responsibility for your situation, gives your clarity. I am not saying you can’t be bummed, pissed, sad or any other emotion that might flood you, this is normal. What is not normal is holding onto those negative attitudes because that is what keeps you stuck. When you take responsibility to ‘fix it’ or solve your boggles you take back your power and energetically refuse to be a victim to outside forces.

Taking back your power allows you to focus on possibilities to open doors of opportunities. I have found this to be true in my life in many ways and many situations. It’s been only recently that I have been using this advice myself, and I find that doors of opportunity are opening, my path becomes clearer, and there is no mistaking where I am headed in the future.

It seems to me, by not complaining (okay complain a little but then get over it and move forward immediately!) I can reroute my brain and energy to finding solutions and clearing my thoughts enough to see that maybe God was just clearing the clutter out of my life, so I am able to see where my next steps are supposed to be directed. I just had to get out of my head and out of my own way!

Now that I have finally learned to get out of my own way I see that I am smack dab in the middle of an abundant forest of opportunities. I see it’s up to me to follow the breadcrumbs left for me by the higher power for my highest and greatest good. I know that God wants me to succeed in all I do, when I let the signs of the Universe help me along and see the ‘difficult’ situations as guide posts too, I can hurdle them, and want success for myself as well.

“When you focus on problems you’ll have more problems, when you focus on possibilities you have more opportunities.”

What opportunities are you seizing today?! I would love to hear about them!

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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Keep your head up!

 

I talk a lot about the importance of staying positive even on days that aren’t our easiest, or life isn’t going according to the plan. I know there’s plenty of negative happenings in life that shake you up, knocks you off kilter, and make you wonder “What the heck just happened here?” It can be difficult to trust life at times we feel pain so acutely like, suffer a failed marriage, lose a job, succumb to depression or illness, or lose someone we love. You want to know “What is there to be positive about at times like that?” My answer to that is there is always, always, something to be thankful for.

We are not meant to suffer endlessly in our mental prisons of depression or anxiety causing us to worry about what might happen, for endless hours. You deserve to have small joys, and happy times even when life sucks socks. I am not saying that you can’t go ahead, have a small pity party for one. Scream, cry to your favorite heartbreak song while driving down the highway, or be good and pissed off occasionally. There are times that call for these reactions, but there’s no good outcomes of extended periods of wallowing in our misery. There is scientific proof that prolonged stress, and negativity will wreak havoc on our immune systems and state of mind; leading to a lesser quality of life.

I believe in the power of positivity, and that there is always, always, always something to be thankful for. It is in these moments of despair that we need to see what we are thankful for the most. When you have the most terrible week at work and you get to sit down at the dinner table with the family that loves you, be thankful that the love of your family is there to help you get through, and you are blessed with enough to eat. When families fall apart, we are thankful for the blessing of supportive loyal friends. When we lose a loved one, we are reminded to cherish the loved ones you still have standing, making your love seem to grow even deeper. If you lose a job, I believe the Higher Power does that to give you something better, move you forward to something more suitable for you. It maybe a struggle financially, but the perks are getting to see the people you love, hang out with your kids or spouse, and finally give them more of your time, love and attention (all things that money cannot buy.)

In our consumerist money driven society, we often forget that quality time, love, and attention are things you cannot buy in a store or make more of when you want it. Being positive means to me that we focus on the blessings we have here and now, even if you feel you have nothing, you do have yourself and your will to make life look the way you want it to. It is our choices that move us forward or keep us in the same situation. When times are tough it is then when we must look deep within ourselves and ask our soul what we really need.

It is often in times of struggle and pain we are able to ask our higher selves “Well, this sucks, what’s the best plan now? Where should I focus my next steps? What is the best direction for me?” When life makes you uncomfortable it is because it is time to move forward from what is no longer serving your best interest. (Maybe not in the case of death but in most other instances that cause us strife like work, relationships, or dramas; these are signs to work on yourself.)

By being positive during these transitional periods helps us look forward to days with longer stretches of joy. Having something to look forward to, is essential to keeping your head up, keeping your eyes on the prize, helping you put one foot in front of the other. It can be as simple as a dinner date with your best friend, or a vacation that’s eight months away. It is something positive that you can put your energy to as opposed to doing laps around your mind; just stirring up vortex of crazy negativity that even unintentionally, yet undoubtedly will spread through the rest of your life and to the people in it. It is our own responsibility to take ownership of our energy/thoughts and how we use it. If we go around complaining about everything and anything all day long, you will be looking for more things to complain about to keep you in your vibration of unpleasantness. Often trying to bring others down with you, because their joy makes you uncomfortable.

That’s how energy works, there is negative and positive flow, if you touch them together it doesn’t feel good. That’s why happy people avoid negativity and negative people look for more negative situations or news to keep there vibes just where it feels comfortable to them. Joy and positivity take practice, I see that even some people are afraid to be happy because they think it’s too good to be true or it won’t last. That’s a shame that you can’t enjoy the moment when it is offered to them, it is sad that we give our power of joy away to the power of negativity when we do have the ability to choose which one we would rather feel.

Keeping positive takes practice, by purposely adding people or events into your lives, scheduling time doing anything at all that helps you nurture the joy inside of you is the best healthy habit that you can give yourself. Being thankful for a good night’s rest so you can face the day, enjoying the beauty in the sunset/sunrise, really feeling your heart swell when you hear you child belly laugh, or a meaningful conversation that makes you feel heard, are the small golden movements we dismiss for having no value because you can’t buy them, when they should be cherished for the same reason. Money cannot buy happiness, you will not find happiness at the store you must be able to see it, and accept it into your daily practice if you want to cultivate more of it.

Practicing positivity brings you inner joy, inner joy brings outer glow, outer glow vibrations will attract love, luck and situations that pull more good things into your energy field. Simple as that. Practicing positivity, keeping your head up in times of adversity, loving at times you don’t feel loved yourself, will help you be the person you want to be. The Universe/God will not give you more than you can handle, I believe it is how you handle the things that come your way that makes up the quality of your life. Trusting our life path even when it doesn’t go as planned is part of the journey, it is up to us to if we want to sit on the cactus we’ve been given, or we can nurture it and water it until it blooms into something beautiful.

Psalm 23:4 – Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.

I am not a religious person, but I do find tremendous value in the core of all religions teachings, it is about love, acceptance and trust of your life path. It is the resistance to change that causes the pain, if we can accept what is, look around to find what is also great, we can choose to move forward by taking purposeful steps toward greatness. That is the whole point of the power of positivity, when you can see it, use it and keep your eye on it, choose to keep your head up and aim right for it you will hit the mark or at least get somewhere closer to it then you were before. I believe that makes all the difference in the world to what kind of day you will have. It’s every single day of choices you make that add up to your life time, what kind of life do you choose to cultivate?

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. ~ Aristotle

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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