Enjoy Life!

This past weekend has been full of family, friends and love. My mom came to stay for a visit and we had my neighbor over for dinner. The next day we went out with my best friend of 29 years to play bingo on her birthday. Today is Mother’s Day, I woke up to the dishes done and the animals all fed because my daughter took care of it for me.

My mom and I are going to go flower shopping this afternoon, which is a tradition we both enjoy very much. I love it when life sends me a whole weekend full of blessings. It was busting with love and friendship all jam packed with laughs and memory making.

Sometimes it’s okay to leave chores unfinished, it is okay to leave the to do list sit unchecked for one more day. The good stuff of life comes when it is here, and we must seize the opportunity to enjoy it or it will pass without us.

There are many days that seem to all look the same, going to work, coming home, doing the same chores year after year, week after week and day after day. If we don’t grab the special times and enjoy them thoroughly they will pass, leaving us with a life of work and chores! No, thanks.

This is not the kind of life I have any interest in creating for myself or my family. When my mom is visiting I like to enjoy our time. I choose not to worry about the stuff that doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of life. Once in a while we need to remind ourselves what is truly important.

P.s. it is not work, and it’s not chores or your to do list. These things are just things. I have learned people are important, connection is important, making my relationships and fostering more love and enjoyment in my life, this is what is important.

Everyone around you will benefit from participating in life to the fullest. I have found when I am “here and now” that it helps my spirit feel connected with those I am spending time with. I have a nurturing soul that cherishes connection and feeling like I am doing my part in creating my life experience for the better.

Taking pleasure in life’s small moments like sharing morning coffee with my mom and daughter, oh man… This is the stuff makes my heart smile.

I know we will look at the pretty flowering plants that my mom and I pick out, we will see them all summer long and as months go by we will remember our day together. I will remember that this weekend she won BINGO two times in a row! I will remember time spent with my longest time friend on her birthday.

I will remember my daughter being her super sweet self. How she took care of the small stuff this weekend, that would bug me if left undone. She knows this about me, I like things just so, and I appreciate her effort to help me very much. I feel loved when she shows she cares in these small but meaningful ways.

I will remember roaring laughter at the kitchen table with my mom, daughter and neighbor. It was as if the house was rumbling with much needed girl time therapy, deepening relationships, making soul connections.

I will remember that this whole weekend, because I chose to be present, invested and here. All in, all weekend.

Where are you today? Are you thinking of your to-do list ? If so, make sure you write, ENJOY LIFE right on top of that list!

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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Meditate the weight away?

Adventure Sister Stacy texted yesterday and told me she is starting a 90-day, daily meditation challenge to see if she could reduce stress. Her reasons being that stress causes us to produce too much cortisol. The hormone that makes you retain weight around your middle.

Stacy is a holistically trained RN and Yogi with an abundance of knowledge on how the effect our mind, body, spirit connection can truly change your life. Hence the meditation weight loss experiment/adventure. If we can meditate a short while every day for 90 days, we may have success in managing our stress and our weight.

I asked if we could do it together to keep each other accountable. We both had the same reasoning for doing this 90-day meditation stress reducing adventure, we wanted to try relaxing extra pounds of stress away in a healthy way.

I thought. “You know what? I’ve tried crazier diets. Let’s give this one a whirl!”

I had another reason, I used to smoke cigarettes…. I absolutely one hundred percent without a doubt in my mind know that smoking is one of the most destructive things you can do to your own body. I have started up again randomly here and there to deal with stress. I am not proud, I wanted to stop.

I am an intelligent person. I know this is not good for me in anyway. I decided this old habit of stress management is not acceptable. I am in control of how I choose to relax and manage stress. I am choosing to cope with my stress in healthier way! If I can lose weight well that would be great!

Besides, I used to be good at this meditation stuff. I would even add chakra stones, and sound healing to my meditation practice. I could let my mind wander and relax for an hour or more. Now, life has me chasing my tail on the campaign trial, while working and writing. The time I have to myself lately is far different then I have been used to and it is causing me stress and anxiety.

I started the mediation adventure on Monday. I had a campaign team meeting scheduled at my house that evening. I had several things to accomplish that day but knew I had to get my meditation in. Stacy and I had not talked about the amount of time we would dedicate to this experiment. We knew that we would both do the best we can in the time and space we are given.

As late afternoon approached, and I knew I must get my meditation in before team arrived. I am so thankful and blessed to work from home. I was not in the relaxing meditating frame of mind so decided to put on a beauty face mask that required me to lay down on for twenty minutes or it would fall off…. I was basically forcing myself to lay down and relax.

As I laid there I thought, “I can do this.” Approximately two seconds into my meditation, my thoughts started up.

“I have to write that phone script, I have to email my team, I have to make sure dinner is made, I have to do, to do, to do… blah, blah, blah….”

I decided to focus on breathing and counting my breaths in and out.

“I cannot let stress win. The timer on my phone is going to go off any minute, right? I have things to do.

Relax gosh darn it…. Sigh…. I used to be good at this.”

I was able to relax my mind after a few minutes. It is not important to not think at all. That’s almost impossible for most of us! It is important to calm your thoughts and not respond to them with emotions that get you feeling uneasy. Meditation is easier for me when I have a mantra that I repeat to myself to keep my mind from wondering so I did that.

“I am peaceful, I am joyful, I am love.”

The first day of our 90-day meditation adventure was a good experience. They say when you don’t have time to relax. That is exactly when you need to relax! As a massage therapist and energy worker I know this is true. I must practice what I preach and treat my body, mind, and spirit connection with respect if I want to feel my best.

Yet, I just can’t believe how uncomfortable it is to relax somedays!

I can do this, I need to do this for myself. It is going to be a challenge fitting in time to reflect when the list of ‘to do’s’ keeps getting longer. But I guess that is the whole point. Taking care of myself by managing my stress should be on the list every day too.

I feel I tend to put other people and tasks ahead of my needs and I will not continue that. I choose take time for myself so that I can be the best me I can be.

We would love to hear your meditation tips if you choose to take the 90-day meditation challenge with the Adventure Sisters.

We are going to blog once a week about our mediation results so please make sure you follow Stacy’s blog at stacycrep.com

Namaste!

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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A Starfish Story

Sometimes you just need one person who believes in you, your heart, your intentions and your dreams to help you keep moving forward when everyone else is telling you all the reasons you shouldn’t. My person has been my Adventure Sister and soul sister Stacy. From the moment we met Stacy has helped me come out of my shell, not only by going on adventures, but growing together in a mind, body, spirit kind of way.

I feel more confident in who I am, because I had a mentor to show me how to fully embrace who I was as a person, to love my mind, body and quirky spirit. She celebrated the attributes I once thought of as negative like ‘stubbornness’ and helped me reframe this to ‘persistent or determined’, which led to setting goals, and then achieving them.

Stacy consistently encouraged me to level up in all areas of my life, she Yoda’d me or coached me through self-esteem issues that were keeping me from being brave enough to be authentically me. She encouraged me to remember who I really am inside, what do I really believe? What do I really stand for? Do your actions match? She asked me hard questions, called me out and encouraged me to be authentic in her own kind way.

Adventure Sister Stacy and I have a strong soul connection, like sisters we have special relationships. She taught me that what’s more important than having someone else believe in you; was that I must believe in myself. Very big sister like advice, I am sure I have heard it many times in many ways. She was an example of what it looked like to own your uniqueness and passions to make them feel like they were the best part of your magical charm. Which is, of course, true!

I have wanted to write a book for a very long time but never had the confidence to try, I would tell Stacy about my dream of being an author for years. It took Stacy suggesting we write a book together before I was brave enough to try. I thought that I needed someone to hold my hand to hold me accountable to go through with it. The moment we decide to write a book together, we set a goal of 3-5 pages per week. Every week, we surpassed this goal swiftly.

The first book “Lessons through Joy” was written in about four months. Our other stories flowed so freely, we continued to write and write some more. We ended up with enough chapters to fill a three-book trilogy. I was doubting myself, looking for approval from others instead of just believing in my own abilities. When I put effort into it I found out there was nothing to be fearful of, only my own doubts kept me idle.

It has been a wonderful literary adventure with my dear friend, we have had the most amazing journey just to get where we are today. Our three book proposals are almost complete and will be ready for submission to publishing companies by the end of the month. We are both full of excitement and anticipation for what the future may hold, yet we know whatever happens will be as it should. We feel blessed to be going through this amazing journey together.

When I learned how to believe in myself fully I realized that no matter what happens I will be okay. If we sell a few books or if we sell a few million books… I know that I will be proud of myself for trying. I will be happy that I found the confidence to attempt a shot at making my dream reality, instead of being too scared to give it a go. That’s what I know. Stacy does too.

It was my sister Stacy that encouraged me to run for State House of Representatives when the opportunity arrived. She reminded me to believe in myself, she reminded me to own my authentic self by putting my political passion to work in real and tangible ways. “The Universe gave you this gift of opportunity, don’t you want to go down the path to see where it leads?” Leaving it to sound like an adventure, because she knows I love adventures.

This, my friends, is how my soul sister Yoda’s me into being a more confident, goal setting, dream chasing, adventurer… because that is authentically me. Stacy was the person who believed in me, encouraged me, and helped me when I was a starfish beached on the shore. She saw that being stuck in the sand was not where I was supposed to be, she kindly nurtured our friendship and led by example what it means to be the change you wish to see in the world.

I feel blessed to have such a great person in my life that I get to call my friend. For more Yoda like wisdom, follow Adventure Sister Stacy Crep’s blog too! Please feel free to follow her at stacycrep.com she is an amazing person.

 

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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Are you a Do’er?

It seems to me there are two kinds of people; people who talk about what they want and people who do what they want. At different times in my life I have been both. I have even been the worst kind of person (in my opinion) which is a complainer. I complained about everything but took no action to change it. I myself, hate to hear complaining it is like fingernails on a chalkboard to me. When I realized how I was acting I decided to acknowledge my own bull and decided to change my ways.

Instead of complaining I focused on the blessings. If I was fighting with my family I chose to accept that I am still blessed with great clients and my dogs still loved me. While feeling despair about the environmental protections being dismantled I decided to stand up and say my peace. When that didn’t change anything, I decided to try to put myself in a position that may help me effect change I wish to see in the world.

Complaining never got me anywhere, it only alienated people who liked my happy personality but now were stuck listening to me protest and criticize others. If they offered ways to change, I disregarded it, as if it would not possibly work because I wasn’t willing to try. When we complain and don’t do anything to fix it or help what we are complaining about it only makes the situation seem worse. In turn the person who was complaining seems like a downer who just doesn’t want to do the work it takes to change.

Until I decided to DO something about what I was complaining about, I was just a whiner. Plain and simple. They say there are three things you can do about something you don’t like;

1.Accept it. (Out of the question)

2.Leave it. (Nope, I like it here)

3.Change it. (Sounds like work… but here I am.)

I am not afraid of a little hard work, my mother raised me with hardcore work ethic. I show up, dig in, get my hands dirty or work long hours doing what needs to be done. I was willing to do hard work for my career but somehow had fell short working at defending my beliefs. Until my beliefs (clean water/air/soil/food/equal rights etc…) were being mutilated, crapped on, and poisoned, I realized I had to listen to the calling of my soul.

I was not happy and complaining so much because I knew I wasn’t doing anything at all to stand up for what I believe is right. Well…besides venting on Facebook which solves absolutely nothing. I was feeling depressed, sleeping too much, not exercising and eating poorly because I felt helpless. Until I asked myself to accept it, leave it or change it, I was stuck. These three choices are darn brilliant. I recommend you asking yourself to follow the same instruction in situations you are complaining about, it is life changing.

You know what I found out? I am not helpless, my voice matters, my opinion counts, I do have an affect on the outcome of my small corner of the world. Because my actions matter! What you do, has so much more power in manifesting your future then what you say you want in your future. I can say I want clean water, and safe environment, but if I am complaining to all the wrong people and pointing fingers instead of working to make fixes and changes, it all stays the same.

My point is all the people you look up to, all the people you admire for doing something great…. They are all just regular people who decided to do what they say. I’ve come to realize it’s not because they are any different than me, it is only because they do. No matter how long it takes or how much work it is. Doing is where the magic happens. You will not become a millionaire watching television or surfing the internet, these things only steal hours of your life that you could use to make your goals happen.

Come on kids! Let’s go DO something! Let’s be the change we wish to see in the world.

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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