Finding balance

There has been a shift inside myself from internal growth and maintenance to external efforts to bring peace to the world around me. I have found many like-minded folks who do their best to be the change they wish to see. We volunteer, and we share our experiences filled with wisdoms we’ve learned in our own lives. Our hope is, to help others, by sharing our past challenges and what we would have done differently if we could do it again.

I have spent the last year focused on trying to bring harmony to my community. As you can imagine, it’s not an easy thing to do when others would rather argue and fight instead. I did feel, at times, like I was fighting too. This isn’t my natural personality. I am a lover not a fighter and I like to think I am an upbeat person. A little feisty, but full of kindness and caring, that I want to share with my community and see if I can make any difference at all.

Honestly, I am tired of the fight. I feel I can rest well though, knowing I did my best even if I did not get the outcome I was hoping for. It took a great amount of energy for me to campaign. So much so that I did not allow much time to do the simple things I enjoy or do my best caring for myself or family. The campaign was like a force of a tornado that scooped me up and had me running in circles with no way of knowing where I would end up. I trusted this experience as it has given me new perspective.

When it comes right down to it for me, my family and health are the most important things a girl can have. I have been putting both on the back burner for a long while and it’s time to get back to the truly important things in life. Truthfully, I do wonder if my efforts were worth it. At the end of the campaign I felt like I was pouring from an empty cup and now I have a chip in it as well. The chip signifies the crack caused by my lack of maintaining my personal life.

Looking back, this is not okay with me. I should have made it a priority to find balance between campaign life, work, family, health and personal spirit care much earlier. It is a human struggle, for most of us at some time in our lives, so I can’t beat myself up too bad about it. What I can do though, is acknowledge it and then make sure I do better going forward.

I am thankful for winter as the pace of life seems to settle down and the Holidays come around, naturally bringing family back into focus. This is a time to rest after a good effort and harvest of the summer time activities. It is the perfect time to re-fill my cup per say.

If you are wondering how does a girl refill her cup? I will share with you how I plan to do so… it may not be for everyone, of course, it is custom designed for me and what I feel I need. My hopes are, by sharing my version of self-care, you can also get some ideas of what may work for you.

 

Massage – lots of them! Massage is good for body, mind and spirit. It’s proven to reduce stress, muscle tension and increase serotonin levels. Who doesn’t need that?! Other modalities that do this are acupuncture, chiropractor visits and sound healing.

 

Eating healthy – I love to cook! Soup is one of my favorite meals to make, it allows me to get creative, while filling my tummy with vitamins and minerals my body needs. It’s important to get your veggies in everyday and I had not been doing my best lately. I like to use organic produce with lots of herbs and spices. Some day’s it takes me hours to make soup and I love the whole process. It is very grounding. From chopping, slicing, and singing in the kitchen, to the part where I let it simmer for an hour or more to marry. This brings me peace.

 

Nurture my spirit and body – Some people go to church, I tend to go outside or within. Walking in nature heals my spirit even in the winter. I will meditate wayyyyy more than I have been. Silencing my mind allows me to hear what Spirit and my own soul have to say. I will also go see my friends that do energy healing because sometimes you just need a little help.

 

Family and friends – Spending time with the people who love me unconditionally, is a great way to fill up my heart. I will take my husband on dates, I will go visit my daughter, and other friends and family who let me be just me.

 

Kids – I do not have little ones of my own, but I do have family with little people I enjoy and adore. I will make time to sit on the floor and read a book with my littlest family members to bring back simple perspective to my life. Children are full of wisdom if you truly listen.

 

Animals – My dog Gus is growing older and we can’t go out hiking in the cold winter, but we can go on car rides and other adventures.  Spending time with my dog, lowers my heart rate and elevates my mood. My dog fills my heart with joy and reminds me to enjoy the ride of life.

 

Volunteer – I am a nurturer by nature. It makes me feel good to help others. I will find ways that let me do so that fit into my life and not let it overwhelm my time or energy.

 

Clean House – This pertains to my actual house that has been neglected for months as well as my internal house of intentions, emotions and feelings. I believe that the state of our outside world represents the inside of ourselves. As above, so below. I am going to clean out the closets, purge old things I no longer need and freshen up the paint. I am going to give love to the corners of the house and pick up the rugs where I may have taken short cuts to sweep issues under it. I will do that maintenance on the inside as well.

 

My intention is to share my life experience so that you know you are not alone in the struggle to find balance. I hope this blog helps you in some way. We are all in this great big world together and it’s important to practice kindness with others and yourself. Be gentle and understanding, we are all growing at our own pace and in our own ways.

 

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings!

With love,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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Week three / 90-day meditation check-in

This week has been just about as hectic as the previous, this is becoming a normal state of being lately. For this reason alone, I see the need to mediate even more. I have been doing my best to sneak quite time and some deep breathing. This is not the same as meditating and I can tell the difference. Yet I feel that I am consciously still working on managing my stress in small ways.

I was at the doctor this morning and did have some weight loss. I lost almost 4lbs! Although, I cannot say for certain it was because I am meditating and reducing stress hormones. I am more likely to think that I am just extra active in the summer months then in the winter. Spring weight loss is kind of normal for me. That and thanks to the very warm and humid temperatures all week I am sure I could have also lost a lot of water weight due to perspiration.

I find I can relax much easier when I have had a good day of checking things off my to do lists. Seemingly each day this to-do list gets longer and longer because of additional campaign duties. I don’t mind the extra work, I do have some moments that I find overwhelming. This is when I must do better at being kind to myself and recognize the need for a break.

I have a feeling that the life lessons I will be learning this summer will be teaching me how to rest instead of quit. Trust me there are times I want to quit. There are times I wish for my peaceful, serene and sometimes boring life back! Yet I know this is not what I truly want. I have no desire to live a hum-drum life that looks the same every day! Been there, done that.

That’s why I am working so hard. I wish to change my life in magnificent ways. I wish to surround myself with wonderful friends and family time. I just miss the extra time to myself that I used to have to take care of my own needs. Who would not miss such important time? I know this feeling is normal and I let is pass as quickly as it comes.

I felt the urge to share this picture of my African Violet. It was a gift from a wonderful neighbor recieved just last month. Taking this picture felt like an intuitive compulsion so, it got me wondering the meaning behind the beautiful and finicky flower? I like to listen to my intuition for reasons just like this. I believe Spirit talks to us in many ways, it’s up to us to disypher its messege.

I did some research and found the Violet is a symbol of loyalty, strength, courage, devotion, deep love and commitment. African Violets teach us less is more, strength is in the spirit, and helps us to understand balance. It is said to nurture the violet will teach balance in health, love, commitment and longevity. Doing so will fill your home with joy, love and solidarity. How fitting!

I needed to hear this today. Even though I have much to do, to do, to do! I must keep making time for my spiritual and mental health and happiness. I just wanted to update you on the progress of the Adventure Sisters 90-day Meditation challenge. Have you been trying to meditate more? How do you fit time into your schedule for yourself? I would love to hear your ideas!

Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,

Emy Minzel ~ Adventure Sister

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