Do you think that you deserve a happy, and true lasting love you can feel deep in your soul? Do you think you deserve a career that is rewarding and makes you feel good about what you do? Do you think that you deserve a life full of family and friends that cherish, love and respect you? Do you feel comfortable in uniqueness you have to offer the world?
I think I do deserve these things, I think you do too! I know that when I decided to get serious about what and who I allow myself to spend time and energy on that is when my life seemed to bloom. When I was much younger I would keep myself small since being authentically me, would make others uncomfortable. I was not like them. I see now how we are all different on purpose.
I have never fit in well, not in high school and not in the crowd I used to run with. Although I masked it well. I am different for a reason, I was not supposed to conform. I was supposed to be uncomfortable enough to move on. I was being guided and called to do better and be better by this knowing that I didn’t belong.
It wasn’t fun or comfortable to try to fit myself into a crowd that didn’t get me. So, I decided to up my game, find people who have higher aspirations for life and to be inspired by. I chose to spend my time with people who love my uniqueness, my ambitions and celebrate them instead of picking on me for dreaming big.
There are friends or family that freely express their concern for my bold actions. They show me their fears laying them on my lap. As if I should also be scared or fearful of the same things they are. Some people certainly do not want you to succeed beyond what they think you should or could. Because they don’t think they deserve it for themselves so why should you?
I have learned to be weary of those people and see it in myself when I share my fears. It is masked as concern, but it is fear. Because I choose to see the good in people my rose color glasses would eventually reveal truth. Some of these people who I thought were close friends and even family masked behind fake support. Instead planting seeds of doubt, or backhanded compliments. I still had many years to invest in those relationships before I realized it was a lesson to learn. Weeding out faux friends and toxic family was a lesson I had to learn the hard way.
What do you do when the people who are closest to you are the ones that don’t like you taking chances or being raw and authentically you? What do you do when other people’s insecurities are pushed on you clearly dulling your shine? My answer is simple.
Don’t allow it.
Don’t give up!
Shine baby shine!
Know that you deserve to chase your dreams, you deserve to live your life in the way you want! You deserve to life fully and as hard as you wish to push yourself! Do not let the fears of others keep you from living your dreams even if they scare you and them.
Knowing that you will be okay if you fall is also a game changer. Being brave enough to try while knowing you just might biff it, is heroic in my mind! I have discovered how to march solo to the beat of my own drum because nobody else could carry the frequency of my tune.
I don’t need to carry other’s fears or expectations. I have learned to minimize the comments from the peanut gallery in the bleachers, the one’s not in the game.
When other’s opinions of how I should live are quieted; I can hear my heart speak. Asking me if life is good enough to stay the same? My heart leads me to the places and people that help me grow. It leads me to move careers, it led me to leave unfulfilling relationships for better ones. My heart leads me to live my life purpose of helping others.
My heart whispers to stay calm when I am being brave and bold.
I trust myself to know intuitively where to go next, I trust my heart to keep me safe and happy. Even in the uncomfortableness of blooming out of the tight and safe bud I was keeping myself in. I know that I deserve to feel fulfilled in all areas of my life, including relationships, career and love.
I also know that to open your heart to others, being vulnerable enough to show the real you, is super scary. We all feel that way sometimes. But ask if it’s worth it to keep yourself small or build walls around your heart just in case you may get hurt? I don’t think so. Disappointment, pain and heartbreak are part of life that we all share. Why squash your dreams to keep others comfortable? Can yourself so you don’t outgrow who they project on to you who they think you are or want you to be? hogwash. Those folks are not your people.
To me it is better to be the best version of you, you can possibly be. Is it really that scary to open you heart and love so big that the moon might feel it? Yes. because of fear that the feeling won’t returned. But, What if it is?
Fear asks. What if, you try to reach your goals and you fail?
I say; So what?! It’s how we learn. It’s how we grow into authenticity.
We are all unique for a reason, find the people and situations that celebrate and appreciate the authenticity you bring to the table, or you will never find contentment. If it was meant to be it will be.
Find the courage to accept yourself just the way you are, be bold in chasing your dreams. Find the will to overcome your fears and the fears of others. Be valiant enough to ask others to accept you just as you are. Be courageous enough to release those who can’t support you without trying to control you with their fears you may outgrow them.
Be brave in the way you love, have courage to live your life in the way you want to be remembered. Be fearless in creating the story of your life. When you believe fully in yourself, your dreams and goals. It gives you the courage and strength to go it alone if you have too because you refuse to accept anything less then you deserve.
P.S. Give yourself permission to feel joy, excitement and happiness! You deserve it.
Wishing you an abundance of joyful blessings,
Emy Minzel ~
@emyforhouse15A
Emy Minzel 